[europeangirl]

Hi, so I don't know were to begin I'm 18 years old and basically I feel so lost and not appreciated in this world. I feel vry useless... I got kicked out of work and these last 2 months have been like hell myself esteem level dropped wayyyyyy lowww and I feel like I can't get back on my feet.. I see all the people around me living life and things going on and all I feel like doing is stay in my room in the dark and cry all the time... I don't get any support in what I want to do every time I tell my mum I want to do something even if it's the smallest thing in the world she tells me its far fetched I'm thorn apart cause I consider family to be there to support you also... I just can't go on like this its been like this since I was very young.
I really don't know what's happening to me all of a sudden I used to be happy always out with my friends and happy at work (before he kicked me out)... today I went out with 2 of my friends after about a week and a half inside the house. The only reason I was going out is to buy cigs and post cv`s or else just send them by e-mail.. also one of the people I care for a lot who lives a continent away(I live in europe he lives in usa) started to ignore me these past 3 days like I'm his biggest enemy for no reason and its killing me inside what the hell is wrong with me?? ( Ive known him for about 2 years, we started dating and then he moved away but we stayed in contact and while I was dating someone I started thinking about him again I just can't get him out of my head he is also a good friend and an amazing guy I can't believe all off a sudden he started ignoring me after saying he misses me and wanting me to go there.. what! Was that all bs?! ) Im so hurt nothing is going right and I don't feel like doing anything to help myself accept for crying.Belive me I want to make myself a better life but something is holding me back.

[AlexaMarie]

Well God is obviously missing, but besides that, crying won't help you. You're only 18, cheer up, the world is at your fingertips. Getting a job is very important if you don't want to live on the street and don't have any family there for support. First thing first is getting your education. College is important if you want a job. If your boyfriend moved fare away and doesn't want contact with you and what not, don't let him get in the way. Because you need to focus on a whole lot more than that. He could be a distraction. Most of the time living together before marriage can mess things up. You need to quit whining, and pull yourself together. You're still young and there's a whole lot you can do with your life. And you seem very interested in this man. If he is ignoring you, you should have some dignity and not give him the time in a day. You're worth more than that. He may seem into you at first, but if his whole heart isn't in the relationship, it never will be. Take it from someone who's had experience. I don't know about your whole job and college situation so I just gave you advice on that even if you didn't need it. Hopefully that helped. God bless!

[Jake2008]

When life knocks you down, such as what has happened with your sudden job loss, it is important that you resume some sort of schedule, and stick to it.

It's all to easy to fall into that place where the depressive thoughts, and 'why me' mind set, mixed with worry and anxiety, makes for a lonely existence.

This is temporary. You will find another job, and be busy and productive, and eventually fit into the daily routine of living again.

While it is hard to set your alarm clock and get up in the morning when you have no job to go to, it's a good idea to do, so at least you have some structure and discipline in your day.

When the alarm goes off, get up, feed the cat, have a cup of coffee, and read the want ads. Update your resume, and prepare to hand out at least three a day. Get in the shower and prepare yourself to face the unknown of the day. Make it a habit of going to any resources that are available to you that help with finding a job, updating the resume, maybe consider some upgrading.

If you are receiving unemployment insurance, there are resources for people (at least in Canada) where you can take advantage of furthering your education, or assistance in changing your career path. See what is available, and if anything interests you in starting a new career, take advantage of it.

Consider volunteer work to keep busy, even a few hours a week. This is also a good one to add to your resume.

Get reference letters together if you can. Follow up on any and all leads, or letters you may receive back from places you have applied to for work. Thank them for their consideration, and let them know you are available should they require additional help.

Take the 'down time' to get things done that you have been putting off. Maybe spring cleaning, organizing your home, dropping off clothes to the thrift shops.

Don't allow yourself to stay in a rut too long, because it will get harder and harder to dig yourself out. Jobs are not going to come knocking at your door, you have to get out and find one.

As to the lack of support from your mom, maybe she sees you not trying hard enough to help yourself?

If you can't count on her, count on those that can provide services to help you become employed again.

Friends come and go, and to lose one as you've mentioned, is particularly painful, especially when you need a little support. The plus side of that is, you will know who your friends are when you hit hard times.

Keep moving, keep busy, and don't allow yourself to sit in a dark room crying. Nothing will come of that except more of the same.