[JellyBayBay]

I've been hiding some things behind my mother's back. I'm 14 years old and I wasn't supposed to date until I was 16 but I've had only a hand full of boyfriends already. I'm very responsible. I did something's 14 year olds are not even supposed to know about but I'm still a virgin. How do I tell her these things?

[EarlyCupid12]

It depends on what those things are. What are they?

[gobrella]

Yes please in form us on what you did that was so bad I am 14 too so I will understand because I'm at your level I can help trust me

[JoeCanada76]

In order to help you further you need to tell us what is going on.

Also, if you do not feel comfortable confiding in your mom. It is safe to say that you should be confiding in someone else. Example, School counselor or doctor. This is very important.

I was going to say that the only way to become closer to your mom, is to spend more quality time with your mom. No matter how close you are or how better you communicate with your mom. She will probably still be mad, and disappointed.

It sounds though to me that you think it is important to tell your mom your experiences.

So maybe you need to spend some extra time with her so you could maybe feel more comfortable talking to her about it.

[Homegirl 50]

Have you and your mom had a good relationship in the past?

The fact that you even want to talk to your mom is a good sign.
Maybe you can write your mother a letter and then set a date for you two to sit and talk about the letter. But know that there may be repercussions for deceiving your mom, so girl up and be prepared.

[Kitkat22]

Your mom is your mom... if you don't want to tell us tell your Mom. You know , moms love their children unconditionally.

Whatever you've done your mother will still love you. She may be angry and hurt and she may not talk to you for a couple of hours, but she would give her life for you as any mother would for her child.

I may be wrong but it seems that you and your mom at one time had a good relationship. I also feel she has raised you right or you wouldn't care what she thought.

There is nothing, NOTHING in this world that could take away my love for my children and your mom feels the same.

It hurts when our children do things we and they know are wrong... but that doesn't take away one bit of that love.
She may yell and cry but if there is one thing I am an expert at it's being a mom.

Not an expert at anything else but this I know for sure. Nothing will stop your mom from loving you. Come clean and you'll feel better... Kit