[laurapitasi]

I have been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years. I have nearly walked out because of his low libido. He is not a passionate man and he has been to a GP and blood tests show mall is normal. However it has gone from sex once every 2-3 weeks to once a week. He says he has a low libido and that is just the way he is. I like to be spontaneous and passionate. We have spoken about this on many occasions. He has improved his eating, drinking and sleeping habits. He could go without sex. I cannot. PLease Please help before I walk way for good.

[DoulaLC]

If there are no health concerns than it is just a matter of individual need. Some people enjoy frequent sex, some are content will it less often. Neither is good nor bad, just different.

The challenge, as you have found, is when the partners in a couple have different needs/desires for sex... and this can change throughout the course of a relationship. Often there will be ebbs and flows to each person's desire for sex... but not always at the same time!

Obviously a compromise becomes necessary, unless you feel strong enough about the issue that the relationship is worth walking away from because of it. Having a strong enough relationship allows you to ride the ebbs and flows, to allow for some give and take and compromise.

You will have to decide is your relationship able to do this? Are you able to discuss it and agree to a compromise where you both can be content? Are the other areas of your relationship strong enough to outweigh the difference in sexual need? If not, then you just might have to walk away from it.