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misshalfer · Feb 8, 2010, 09:27 PM

How do I get my boyfrind to have sex with me?

I am 19 and he is 21. We have been dating for almost six months, and we have had sex only twice, about three months ago.

He told me at the beginning of our relationship that he has such a high sex drive, but it is his first year in university. So he tells me that he is so stressed out that he doesn't even think about sex.

My sex drive is so high, I would do it twice a day if he wanted too. But nothing literally works! I have been drunk on his lap making out, and still no sex.

At the beginning of our relationship, I used to give him head. Now in the past two months, I have only gave it to him once. We never make out or ever talk about sex, EVER.

The first time we did it, we stopped half way through because he was having chest pains.
The second time we tried but he couldn't get hard.
The final time we did it, and he ejected. Then he tried to get me to come, but it didn't happen.

Is it possible he is so embaressed that that's why he's not having sex with me?
We literally don't ever talk about sex. I get brazilian waxes, and I let him know I'm getting one to hint to him, but still NOTHING. We have literally not been sexually active in the past few months. I feel on the verge of cheating because a girl has needs and he's not providing them for me. What do I do?

I love him, and I know he really cares about me as well.

ALSO, another question.
He doesn't introduce me to his friends as his girlfriend. It drives me NUTS! I would love it if he showed me off.
Also I don't even know where he lives, who his family members are.
He knows everything about me, but I feel I hardly know anything about him.
Is this just a sign I should leave this relationship?

SOMEONE HELP MEEEEEE!

CarrotTalker · Feb 8, 2010, 09:49 PM

Oh my goodness, sounds like your boyfriend is really missing out!

He has some sexual issues, that is not normal for most guys. If you tried talking about it with him and got no response or improvement, I think its time to move on.

Having a compatible sex drive in a relationship is very important, as you can tell, it drives the high drive person crazy.

misshalfer · May 14, 2010, 05:21 PM

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CarrotTalker · May 14, 2010, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by misshalfer

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So what did you end up doing?

anteccomp · May 14, 2010, 05:47 PM

It is possible that he's embarrassed. It's also possible that he's gay or cheating. Are you both at university together? If he is and you are not, there are likely a lot of opportunities for him to stray and explore. I've never known a guy not to want oral..

I've been to university and had to work my as off through an engineering degree and sex was a great way to relieve stress, so I find it unlikely that he's too stressed for sex.

I think you should take him not including you in his life and sharing details of his life with you as a big warning sign. Either he is hiding something or he doesn't care for you enough to want to share. Do he introduce you as "his friend"?

Jlesnik33 · May 14, 2010, 06:34 PM

I really think the best thing is to sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him what you told us, just word it a little differently. Just by the way he answers, and the looks on his face you might be able to tell why this isn't happening. Bring up why didn't I ever meet your family, why do your friends not know me as your girlfriend. He will sooner or later open up. And if nothing changes, and your really thinking about cheating, that's when you know its time to leave a relationship. He isn't giving you what you need, and you need to stray... which means you need to just break it off with him.

duckbutter54 · May 14, 2010, 10:17 PM

A book called 101 nights of sex by Laura Corn. There's 101 chapters sealed for his eyes and her's. Put the book on somewhere he'll see it. You open a chapter first and do what it says to him... like a surprise.. try to pursue him with senual behavior something simple like dancing while ironing.. don't think about what his doing. He will notice and put the book around while your're out.

duckbutter54 · May 14, 2010, 10:29 PM

[QUOTE=duckbutter54;2352170]A book called 101 nights of sex by Laura Corn. There's 101 chapters sealed for his eyes and her's. Put the book on somewhere he'll see it. You open a chapter first and do what it says to him... like a surprise.. try to pursue him with senual behavior something simple like dancing while ironing.. don't think about what his doing. He will notice and put the book around while your're out stay busy but move around the house listening to Michael Jackson. You have to pursue him more often it doesnot have to be sex but say something nice about the way he looks in a shirt or buy him something. When you see him for the first time always smile. That shows that he makes you happy if he smiles back at you then talk about something positive about him. Seriously having music that you like in the back ground help and right now in my state of mind I wish I had a man and what makes me happy is listening to" Michael Jackson Number Ones" Dance around the house shaking your on the song really are cool to dance if you were out. Remember don't pay much attention to him. Trust me he will notice you.

smoothy · May 17, 2010, 09:58 AM

Maybe he's just simply focused on school and the future rather than here and now.

Stress is a well known libido killer... and he likely is very aware of the current economy and job market. And knows the difference between getting an interview for a job or not may boil down to one letter grade on a single test.

Yeah... many employers who come to campus do say they only want to talk with people who have a GPA ABOVE X.X.

It might not be you at all. Poontang is a major distraction in college. Trust me... been there, done that... would have gotten better grades if I would have had the self control he clearly has.

Besides... he is CLEARLY showing the signs of severe stress... and stress WILL make it hard for a guy to get hard. Now chest pains... thats a biggie. When has he last had a complete physical? Young people can and do have heart atacks. Just not all that often.

smartash05_4u · May 27, 2010, 10:59 PM

My man and I have the same issue he says maybe he likes playing video games and is trying to avoid the ing and nagging... I say maybe he is trying to avoid something... I don't care that he plays games because at least he is at home but you think at some point he could stop to acknowledge you... everyone has there vices in life its just how much you can deal with... talk to him don't ever think there is a permanent fix, you'll have to talk to him again in 3 months but guys have needs just like girls and maybe video games is what he needs... if you can't handle it leave.