[ostner45]

It's a long story bare with me. I met a girl over a dating site. We were talking for a bit and then realized I've met her before at orientation for my school. We ended up hanging out on Friday night she came over and we watched a movie. We ended up no watching it at all and just trying to get to know each other better. We were cuddling for a bit and then kissed me when she said she had to leave. The next day she wanted me to help her move. I met her whole family and they really liked me. After everyone left we cuddled more for a bit then kissed again. We went out for dinner later that day and everything went good. She was telling me how much she likes me and everything. When I was driving her home she wanted me to promise I would get mad with what she said so I did. She was telling me how much she likes me and that she would date me the first chance she got. But she just got out of a 4 yr relationship with a guy about 3 weeks ago and she said she was still hurt and wanted time to figure everything out she also said its still possible that we would end up together but or now she needs time to heal. So when I got to her house she gave me a hug and kissed me goodnight. So my question is what should I do next. I really like her and I don't want to end up in the friends category. Should I stop talking to her for a bit and let her come to me or should I still talk to her. Any advice would be good thanks.

[I wish]

She just needed a booty call and you answered it.

What's the rush? Just keep getting to know each other better and enjoy each other's company. Let things flow naturally.

Slow down on the physical stuff until you actually become a couple. Otherwise, you become friends with benefits.

[Devorameira]

I don’t think that you should completely stop talking to her. If you end contact with her she may take it to mean you no longer care for her even though that wasn’t your intention.

Give her a little space but don’t stop complete contact with her. Communicate your feelings about this situation. You can tell her that you’re not sure how to behave. Tell her that it’s an awkward experience for you.

Just don't stop your life waiting for her to decide. Meet other women and date other women because you never know if she'll go back to the ex or not.

[ostner45]

I because you never know if she'll go back to the ex or not.

I don't think she will go back to her ex he is an he cheated on her and now is with someone elce

[friend4u178]

When someone comes out of a Relationship they need time to heal from it , get their head straight and pretty well just get rid of all the emotional turmoil that breakups bring.

She's been honest with you and seems to know what she needs , so just take it easy and don't try to force her into anything.

Patience is your friend , and you'd much rather she gets over this and likes you down the track when her heads clear than now when she has an emotional void and might just use anyone to fill it.

[roxypox]

My initial thought to your post was that she needed someone to help her move, or she was looking for a rebound.

My second thought after reading Frind4u's post is that maybe you shouldn't write her of completely... she might be honest with you.

My advice is:

1. Slow down contact

2. be in touch, but not too much

3. give her time and space to heal and deal with what ever she needs to deal with!!

4. Don't sit around and wait for her either... you shouldn't write her of because she might be honest, but you shouldn't just sit on a fence either, twiddeling your thumbs or what not... continue living the way you did before she even came into the picture. No need to drop everything just because she gave you a maybe...

5. If contact continues, don't indulge in intimate contact. I say this because that might just be a way to set yourself up to become a rebound.

Her asking for time should prob be read as she said it: she needs time to heal!

[talaniman]

Thank her for her honesty, and be her friend. That's what she needs, but cut the acting like a couple stuff, and be very honest about telling her you intend to date whoever you choose.

No telling how long she takes to heal or if she dates you romantically when she does. Why wait in limbo to find out? Get out and have some fun with not just her, but others as well, and if down the line she feels the same... cool. But for now just friends with out the kissy face stuff.

Talaniman Rule- Never ever mess with any one who has just dumped their partner

Keep your life balanced by doing your own thing without her so YOU don't get carried away by your own intense feelings. She has been honest, so should you be.