[Mickeymouser]

So on this what would have been our 2 year anniversary day, we actually talked after almost 2 months. Tried to keep the conversation light and would not really go into our past relationship. Was good to just know she was doing OK, and things about her job, life, etc. It actually helped me quite a bit, even knowing it's pretty much over for good. I guess her dumping me pretty suddenly (not even in person), and never answering my calls/texts/etc. was a really bad way to end a relationship, but this short conversation helped w/ some small amount of closure. Only time will heal everything.

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Time will,don't worry.
Keep moving on,and good luck.

[Mickeymouser]

Update:

Wow, just found out today she's engaged to some guy she's been with for only a month. This guy is younger than her, non-educated, most would say very unattractive, and a construction worker. I was w/ her two years and she was afraid to move in together because it was too fast, and now after one month she's engaged.

Not sure how I'm supposed to feel, but I feel like somehow she thinks he's an upgrade when obviously everyone (even all her friends) thinks it's a complete downgrade. I just thought maybe she was in a phase and was going to date around and figure things out for herself, not go and get married.

I can say w/ 100% certainty that marriage will not work out, but I don't even know if I should even try and talk to her about it.

Makes the past two years seem very confusing.

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Update:



I can say w/ 100% certainty that marriage will not work out, but I don't even know if I should even try and talk to her about it.

No it will not work out. No it is not something you talk about. You let it go. It's over.

She essentially fired you and then hired someone else.

If your boss fired you and hired someone else would you whine and cry about about how he or she doesn't know that there doing or would you go look for work elsewhere or travel or learn something new or use this time expand yourself. My point is, why is it your job to play hero to an girl who dropped you. Be a hero to yourself or be a hero to a girl you haven't met yet, and put yourself back together and focus on how you can make yourself a stronger independent person.

Makes the past two years seem very confusing.

Honestly, this isn't that confusing. She used you. You can either accept it now and appreciate the lesson or you can be like other stubborn people and repeat this process. I was one of those stubborn people. Be smarter then me. I'm tell you, that you need to find some self respect and demand out of yourself, what you are trying to demand out of her. Your time is valuable. Your emotions are valuable. Your money is valuable. Quit wasting it and start honoring it.

[Showme_urmove]

Hey man! First of all, I'm sorry that your relationship had to end like this.

Question to ask you and please answer them and be truthful.

1. can you be with a person one moment she talks to you about moving in and having a future, then the following week she wants space and figure out if she wants this relationship.

2. If she does decide to contact you again, and you guys go on with the relationship, how long till she needs space again? and leave you in the dark. can you handle the pain over again.
3. Can you be with a person thats confuse about her feelings for you?

The saying goes, if its not broken why bother fixing it, and if it is broken why fix them apart.
She's confused and if I were you, I would not want to be with a person that has mix feelings for the relationship. Either you love me or you don't, how hard is that.
Give her space, but never come back! You don't deserve a person that will always flake on a relationship. For me I don't have time to play that kind of games, Its too much of a heart ache and nothing is ever being fixed. Move on with your life and start over again, it will be hard but everyone here had done it.

If you do decide to wait and get back with her, how long till she ask for another space, what if something better comes along, can you handle it? Can you compete with it? Relationship is about two couples building trust, life, and happiness together, and nothing and no one else matters but just the two of you. But in her case, its about her, what she wants and how she feels. And she just hopes that you will wait for her till she makes a decision. I think she wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side, and if its not your always their to fall back on, like a safety net.

we can only give you advice, and be here when you feel confuse, but its your decision to make a choice, and whatever choice you make, their will be a consequence. It can be good or bad, always know when your heart broken 90% of the time we think with emotions not logical. Know the difference!