[raquinn]

So, I met this really amazing guy. And I was lucky enough to find out he liked me just as much as I liked him...
But going back on a little of my history, most every relationship (be it friend or boyfriend) I have been asked to conform to a certain ideal for that relationship and I always comply, because when I see a relationship that I like (or think I like) I want to do everything in my power to keep that relationship alive. Only in the end do I realize that they asked me to change and resenting myself for changing for them and destroying a part of me to fit their wants and needs, I leave the relationship.
With this relationship, I screwed up big time, I saw this guy, I liked him so much that I felt yet again that I needed to change myself to keep him. He never asked me to do this, but I felt like it was necessary or I would lose him. This is the only time I have changed to what I thought he would want me to be and I saw the relationship die. And its killing me right now that I allowed this to happen.
I talked to him about it, and I talked to him about how I know that I was the reason why our relationship slipped away from us. And that I wanted to try to get back the relationship we had with each other.
He is a straight forward person, and he told me bluntly that he felt awkward about me trying to revive the relationship and to just let it go, but if it comes back naturally he's all for it.
So, my question is, I know I screwed up, I know I let this die, but I want it back. What's the best way to go about getting this back naturally? I don't want to scare him off, or make him feel like I'm trying too hard. But I want to feel like I have a good solid effort at trying to get this relationship back. And I am a loyal person, that's why I don't want to see my relationship fade with him more than it already has. But that doesn't mean I will hold onto something if the other person thinks that its just plain and simple over.

[talaniman]

he felt awkward about me trying to revive the relationship and to just let it go, but if it comes back naturally he's all for it.

That a polite way to say back up and leave me alone. That's what you do. Back up and leave it alone and see if that naturally happens which means leave him alone to see if that's what HE wants.

Right now, it appears he does not. Let your emotional dust settle, before you do anything, and that will take time.

There are no quick fixes, magic potents, magic wands, or a rewind button on reality.

Me I accept its over, and get a life that I enjoyed without him. Never know what will happen, but you can't make it happen, so let it happen... NATURALLY!!

[Homegirl 50]

Let it go. This guy is not wanting to go there.
It might help if you talk to someone about this need you feel to change to be all to the person you're with.
When you are OK with who you are, That problem will not keep repeating itself.

[raquinn]

Then I will let go and hope that one day our paths will cross again and see what will happen.

[Homegirl 50]

That that is smart thinking.

[overayear1]

I see that this post is pretty much answered but I would just like to input that the strongest/best relationship to have is to be exactly who you are from day one. That way there isn't any suprises and if they like you then its for who YOU are. Ahh what a great feeling that would be!

[Devorameira]

You've made the right decision in letting him go.

YOU were the one he was attracted to to start with, so just go back to being you!

Always remember to be yourself.