[bloooooper7]

You're the same age as me. You've got your whole life ahead of you and a butt load of girls who you haven't even given a chance yet. Take a chill pill for a few weeks, stay away from her. Then you can look at what to do next.

[JK191]

I actually felt much better once I got into my head that she wasn't the girlfriend I want (or deserve).

Basically, in what I would call the "perfect" girlfriend, my ex didn't fit into the mold.

This just makes me somewhat happy for the experience and that I can look for someone closer to perfection in my eyes now.

[jmw0713]

You will NEVER find perfection. Don't con yourself into thinking that way. Go out and meet new people, girls and guys. Stay occupied by hanging out with friends, enjoying a new hobby, going to the gym.

Don't go for the whole "meaningless relationship". It doesn't sound like you and trying to fit in that mold will be detrimental to your already fragile emotional well-being. I've done the whole one-night stand/meaningless sex thing... it's definitely not as fulfilling as you think. There are host of other worries that type of lifestyle brings on and from personal experience, worries that I wouldn't want to have to deal with anymore. Plus, you will not meet the quality women you are looking for this way.

Stick with NC and do your own thing. Don't try to follow and fit into someone else's mold or frame. Be you! Someone will come along and see that and things will be better.

One more piece of advice, do not turn down any social invitations.

[JK191]

Been sticking to full no contact since Saturday now. It kind of hurts like hell though.

Still can't shake off the feeling that I may never find another girl though. I'm just too shy to approach a random girl on the street without feeling like a creep.

[amicon]

I think you stop worrying about the future and concentrate on healing,staying busy and moving on.

When you're ready for a new relationship,it will happen.

Till then,work on getting to know more people and make new friends.

[JK191]

Threads merged


Long story short:

-Relationship of almost a year
-Broke up with me because she fell for another guy
-Now starts trying to contact me and treating me exactly like when we were dating

As much as I try to keep to No contact I just can't upfront ignore someone that comes talking to me face to face as that would be extremely rude.

So... AMHD, what the hell do I do about this? Even if getting back together crosses my mind from time to time I doubt it would be good for me.

[Torrid13]

Tell her that you don't want to talk with her, and if that's too hard for you, just flat out avoid her & don't return her calls. It's not rude. It's self preservation. I know I had to do it, because my ex was doing the same thing.

You're right: getting back with her would not be good for you. She's probably treating you this way because she's used to the familiarity of it, not because she truly wants you back.

Cut contact & keep busy. You'll feel a lot better when you don't feel obligated to talk to her. Good luck!

[talaniman]

Ignore texts, phone calls and emails and block them if you can. But be polite, but busy, and unavailable when you see them in public.

"Excuse me but I gotta go, nice to see you."

[jmw0713]

I told my ex that I never wanted her to call or text me again. It has worked so far... Haven't heard from her in almost 9 months.