[crazyppl]

I’ve been in love with a girl for 6yrs ever since I met her I had a major crush on her it took us awhile to become friends but after a few months I started to fall in love with her. We never dated we used to be able to hang out almost every day just watching movie’s or TV or playing video games I was always there to help her with whatever she needed. I find myself protecting all the time trying to make sure she was happy I had to quit a job that I like. For the longest time I felt like I was being used cause she would call me and ask to hang out and when I got to her place she would either be gone with other people or just wanted me to drop her off at a friend’s and say I’ll talk to you later. Every time we would go hang out I would pay for everything I never made her pay for anything. She would hang all over me hugging and kissing my cheek, playing with my hair but she never had any feelings for me, we went out drinking a few times she would tell me how she feels about me, tell me that I would never had a chance with her she says that she doesn’t remember what she said to me and I never told her what she said . I’ve only had 2 girlfriends but never for more than 4 months I didn’t care too much for them since I was still in love with this other girl. I haven’t been in a relationship for 3yrs I have no Idea what type of girls I like I need help to get over her and move on.

[thadevilsadvocate]

She basically used you for whatever she wanted. She doesn't sound to be a very classy girl to begin with. Don't waste your time worrying about her, and just find a girl that isn't going to use you for her own benefit.

[amicon]

This girl used you,and took advantage of your feelings.

Go no contact and have nothing more to do with her.

Once you are over her,date and get to know new girls.

[talaniman]

I think leaving her alone, is a good first step in the right direction.

[jmjoseph]

You were a cash toting cab driver to her. Who needs that?

Love will find you when you least expect it.

Don't give up hope, but you should give up hope in HER being that special one.

Find a caring person. Someone who GIVES and takes, not just takes.

The world is full of girls that will make you happy. Go find one.

Good luck to you.

[crazyppl]

Thanks everyone for the help

[Showme_urmove]

Learn this and use this experience for the future. Never treat any girls like they are special until they become your girlfriend. Don't fall in love unless you really get to know that person. Anyone can fall for lust, but there are more to a girl then just their pretty face. Drop her cause you don't need this kind of person to hold you back for your future.

[Jake2008]

You know those scales of justice? The one with the lady in the middle, and the two weights on each side? Put yourself on one side, and put this girl on the other, and visualize how unbalanced this is.

All relationships start with friendship, and getting to know each other. It is all about mutual needs and wants, consideration, respect, and most of all, communication.

When one party gives of themselves too much, and the other party takes too much, and offers nothing in return, you can assume the friendship isn't a good one.

And without a solid friendship first, love won't happen.

Considering balance again, think about your needs in developing a frienship with a girl like this. Where is it likely to go after all this time. You have talked to her, she is aware of your feelings, yet keeps you in the same place, without offering anything of herself.

If you were to chart the relationship, it would pretty much be a flat line.

The bottom line is here that you allow yourself to continue to expect more from her, and settle for less.

It is also unfortunate that the one you chose to love is not worthy of love. Love is a two way street, and she's going one-way only- her way.

Try not to allow yourself to settle for crumbs she throws your way to keep you hanging on with false hope and promise. You are being used, and there is no nice way to put that.

You are also cutting yourself short by allowing this to continue, because while you are fixated on her, others are passing you by.

You can do much, much better in a better balanced relationship.