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Rambone9494 · Apr 22, 2010, 03:34 PM

Hi everyone. Quick story. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me 7 days ago. 4 days ago she told me she only wants a break. I tried to beg her with no luck. Today she said she wants to go out Saturday so I agreed. But when I ask to see her she says she needs time and space. I'm confused. I've treat this girl so good for 3 years. I took care of her nvr lied and was always faithful. I feel like I'm being used at this point and I'm falling for it. Some advise. Thank you

CarrotTalker · Apr 22, 2010, 03:42 PM

Did she say why she wanted a break or a breakup?

Rambone9494 · Apr 22, 2010, 03:47 PM

At first she said break up and 3 days later she said she just wants a break. If it helps I'm 22 and she is 20. She also pulled the card that I've been making her feel like for a while but I don't. I know it.

ispyspeed · Apr 22, 2010, 04:24 PM

Did you asked her why she wants a break or a break up at that time?

I suggest at this point of time.
Don't try to contact her too much, it will only push her away further and further. She is in a state of confusion and trying to re evaluate whether she should still be together with you.

She suggested you to go out on a Saturday right? That's a good sign. But don't take it seriously. Be calm and upbeat but keep your own personality especially how you behaved the first time you both got attracted to each other?
Don't beg as that shows you are needy and do not appear desperate because that will kill your chances to make HER want you back.

Take time alone while you are not with her and really sit down, absorb things on "yourself" and what reasons and sign that is leading to your break up.

Rambone9494 · Apr 22, 2010, 04:41 PM

Thanks. She said she wants time to concentrate on other things. She works hard and is a nursing student so I know she's busy but this break up hit me like a bus. We had our normal arguments but nothing to crazy. I think my biggest problem is I'm like begging her. I know I'm not a bad looking guy and I could go out now and get someone else but I would nvr do that. Also she is a beautiful girl and I'm so worried shell replace me in no time

chuff · Apr 22, 2010, 05:40 PM

You are being used at this point. A break is a break up.

I have no doubt you were good to her for 3 years. Sometimes that can be counterproductive. You have to give to yourself first. This is that type of situation. Right now she wants a break and you should treat it as such. Give her exactly what she wants. Pull away and either heal yourself or let her miss you.

Either way, she gave you the last gift, and that gift is the time you now have. Use it and do something positive for yourself, focus on something new and set out to do it.

Rambone9494 · Apr 22, 2010, 05:55 PM

I want that more then anything I just have a hard time. I was always raised to give to others (not in a weird religious way). I am just a happier person when I make her happy. But your rite. I need something to take my mind off things

chuff · Apr 22, 2010, 06:10 PM

Originally Posted by Rambone9494

I want that more then anything I just have a hard time. I was always raised to give to others (not in a wierd religious way). I am just a happier person when I make her happy. But ur rite. I need something to take my mind off things

There is nothing wrong with giving to others. So give your time to an animal shelter. Give your time to be a big brother. Give your time to a new part time job. Give a new skill or hobby to yourself now so that you can give it to someone else later.

Dude, these things suck, I know. I've been through a few, but at the end of the day, it's you who has to demand more of yourself to be strong for yourself. There is nothing wrong with being selfish when others are taking advantage of you. Be selfish in this situation, you've earned it.