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xpansion09 · Apr 19, 2010, 07:28 PM

Just wondering if you could advise me here.

So this is my situation.. my girlfriend and I have been going out for 10 months now we have know each other for about 4 years and yeah anyway everything was going awesome until about 2 weeks ago she wasn't answering my calls. She finally responded and felt like she was being suffocated and needed time to find herself again. So I didn't contact her for a week and I ran into one night when I was out, I wasn't giving her any attention so she pulled me away and hugged me and kissed me and said she just needed time to find herself, I said no worries and left her with a kiss on the hand. She contacted me two days later saying she wants to go on a picnic so we arranged to go on Friday. I was contemplating messaging her to arrange where we should go and stuff but I thought that she wanted this so she should try and get me back. Is this a right course of action. I know what I did was wrong by calling her all the time so I'm doing the opposite now.

I wish · Apr 19, 2010, 08:00 PM

If you both want this relationship to work, then tackle the problems together. Not this mind game business.

It's time to list out the issues and work on them one by one. No more dancing around them.

Go on the picnic, have fun, try to re-kindle the spark, but at the end of the day, there are issues floating around that need to be swatted down.

xpansion09 · Apr 19, 2010, 08:02 PM

Thanks for that

I will do when we go.. should I contact her saying where we should go and stuff?

I wish · Apr 19, 2010, 08:03 PM

Whenever you feel like it. Again, quit the mind games. Don't over think it.

xpansion09 · Apr 19, 2010, 08:07 PM

Thanks so much for the advice, I'm just going to go with what my heart says.. I'll let you know how it all pans out

Romefalls19 · Apr 20, 2010, 05:21 AM

Just text and ask her, where would you like to go for our picnic, these mind games are a waste of time.

Devorameira · Apr 20, 2010, 06:49 AM

Communication is the key to good relationships, so call her and get the details.

Sounds like you realize that you've been a little "over the top" with the phone calls, so try to tone down the obsession a little. Try for quality conversation instead of a quantity of phone calls.

talaniman · Apr 20, 2010, 09:51 AM

When someone doesn't answer you right away, don't freak out, or think the worst, and blow their cell phone up. That's over the top, and an unnecessary over reaction.

Just relax, and take it as it comes.