[Atkins03]

So I met someone new recently from a dating site. We haven't been on an official date, but I am okay with that. His profile said he is looking for a friend that could possibly turn into a relationship. He had even said he found that most people never wanted anything serious and he's not into the whole casual thing. I've seen him twice so far. I saw him on Thursday and then again on Sunday. We were supposed to get together Friday night but he was so tired from not getting much sleep, so we pushed it back to Sunday. Both times were absolutely great. He admitted to liking me when I saw him on Thursday. He was like, "I think I like you", then said it was sarcasm when I asked "you think?" Anyway. Both times I've seen him we've kissed, cuddled, held hands, etc. It's never gone beyond any of that. He had actually asked me if I wanted to stay the night Sunday night, but then took it back cause he probably thought it was moving too fast. He said he did want me to, but another time. He didn't want me to get the impression that all he wanted was sex. I told him I understood.

Seeing as how I haven't even known this guy a week yet.. what's the timeline for how often I should talk to/see him? I don't want to rush into things either, bur at the same time I want to feel like I am progressing with this guy and not just seeing him once a week, unless some people might think that is reasonable starting. But for me personally I feel like twice a week would be reasonable. I haven't spoken to him since Sunday. I could easily just text/call him but I don't want to freak him out and I think I'm trying to get him to commit by always texting or calling. I also know he is busy with school, work and friends.. as I am also busy with work.

I am also very much aware that he wants to try and get to know me more and evaluate how I really am before even thinking about committing to anything more serious.

[taaam]

The dating "rule" says every 3 day, but it's up to you how you feel about. Calling the new person too much can be annoying for someone, and then you'll be categorized as a clingy person.

I've dated many types, some likes to talk everyday, some doesn't. If you get to know the person better, you will find out by yourself.

[talaniman]

Your looking for rules after only a week or so? That's something that you work on together, as you get more comfortable with each other, and get to know each other.

Its awkward enough when two strangers meet with out complicating things with worries, and agendas, and stoking the physical attractions so soon. That's fun, but distracting, when you really should be paying attention to the guy, and see if he even deserves to be given that kind of long term considerations.

Every one starts great, and hopeful, because they are on their best behavior to impress the other. Even you are worried about pushing him away, and doing your best. But as you find out more, you can judge better if he is worth your time, and effort, or not.

I think you slow down, and enjoy dating before you get to thinking of spending a night, and getting intimate for sure, as all us humans have fun with sex, but it better be a lot more than lust that keeps you together, so be patient, and not just desperate to have someone, you forget that.

[Devorameira]

Tal gave you some great advice.

There are no hard and fast rules on relationships. Just take things slowly and be sure he is that nice fellow you think he is. First impressions are sometimes false impressions, so be sure you know him well BEFORE you even think about staying the night.