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    jonalexander_smith Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 16, 2010, 08:59 AM
    Why doesn't my girlfriend want to have sex with me
    Hi everyone,

    I could really do with some advice.

    Me and my girlfriend have been together 6 months and we have a great relationship and everything was going well until about 2 weeks ago.

    We hadn't had very much sex and I raised this with her, she said it was because she wasn't attracted to me and didn't want to have sex with me. We are currently on a break for a few weeks because of this while we have some time to think. She still fancies me and thinks I am attractive but isn't attracted to me.

    Is there anything I can do? I love her lots and don't want to lose her.

    Any advice would be great.
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    Apr 16, 2010, 09:06 AM

    Not wanting to have sex is one thing - not finding you attractive is another.

    If you two are meant to be in a relationship, you'll have to establish and physical, emotional, and mental attraction. Do you know which of those she is lacking? If its emotional you can recover with time and bonding over similarities. If its physical or mental, there may be too many issues that stand in your way.

    Typically, you're either physically attracted to your partner or not.

    I think you need to have a long conversation with her to find out what she means exactly.
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    Apr 16, 2010, 02:14 PM

    Sexual attraction is at its peak early on in a relationship. If she isn't feeling physical attraction NOW, she probably never will, regardless as to whether you are physically perfect. Some things you just can't manufacture, and chemistry is one of them.

    You should be with someone who has similar sexual needs as you, and someone who feels attracted to you. It might sound superficial, but these things are really necessary.

    Do you want to get serious about her, marry her, and spend the rest of your life feeling sexually frustrated and undesired?

    Do yourself a favor and move on.
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    Apr 16, 2010, 07:32 PM

    I think that's she was clear she isn't in it for sex, or romance, just something to do. Either get a better girlfriend, or forget the good sex life.
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    Feb 20, 2012, 07:42 AM
    She prob isn't ready she might be afraid to get pregnant and most of the time people lose feelings of one anothere because of sex just give it some time if she comes back then don't have sex for a wile

    She has probably lost interest in you manny pple lose feelings to one anothere because of sex just give it some time and if she comes back then don't have sex for a wile
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