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    beccajo Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 19, 2006, 03:34 AM
    No time together
    We have not been together a year yet, and he seems to be bored with sex. I am in tears over this problem, we love each other and vowed to each other our life together. We went from twice a day to twice a week. We lived together at first, my place, I was letting it go when we met, we moved into my RV in his mothers yard, he is a slob and so I moved around the corner to parents house, where my 8 yr old son is also. His mother liked me at first now she does not and makes threats to me. He is still on his mothers tit, 46 never married. I am 46, married 20 yrs, he died of cancer 3 yrs ago. He does not have a job, he tinkers. I get ss. He spends more time with his buddies than with me, and if he is with me, he is drawing crazy scetches of nothing, or fiddling with his beaten up guitar. For hours. While I sit there bored. If I mention it he gets angry. What can I do to get his eye back on me in love?
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    Dec 19, 2006, 04:00 AM
    I would speak to this man, tell him how you feel, its been a year, so if you can't work on it, I'm afraid its best you move on!
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    Dec 19, 2006, 04:48 AM
    At 46 shouldn'y you have a life that you enjoy without him? Why sit bored listening to him on his guitar for hours? If he is a slob, and a bum, and a mama's boy who would rather be with his friends, may I ask what are you doing with him? Was thesex that good? Please help me understand what help you want, other than find a new boyfriend.
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    Dec 19, 2006, 05:39 AM
    Sounds like he's bored with a lot more than sex. He's bored with his life, and I can understand why. You got involved with him two years after your husband died. Perhaps you did it out of loneliness or wanting to regain what you had lost, but it should be clear by now that he's not husband material and your relationship is not helping you complete the grieving process. As painful as it may be, it may be time to acknowledge the mistake and move on. I would be most concerned about the effect this is having on your son. He lost his father when he was five, you got involved with this guy when he was seven. This has to be really hard on him. Maybe you should focus more on his needs for healing than your own need for intimacy with a man. Just a thought.
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    Apr 29, 2007, 09:18 PM
    Get rid of him
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