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justcurious55 · Apr 12, 2010, 11:38 PM

One of my co-workers mothers passed away a few days ago. I actually work with her and her husband. They're more than just co-workers, closer to friends. I won't be attending the funeral and I have called and talked with my friend but I was thinking about sending her something. I don't really know what would be appropriate, or if its even appropriate to send anything. I was thinking a nice card and maybe flowers (a pretty orchid?) and some home made brownies (chocolate always seems to make things better, I figure her kids will enjoy them for sure). What do you guys think?

Gemini54 · Apr 13, 2010, 01:23 AM

An orchid, brownies and a card sound perfect to me.

Catsmine · Apr 13, 2010, 02:11 AM

You've got this one figured out already. If the orchid is a single bloom, make sure it's potted. A card and brownies to go with is inspired.

justcurious55 · Apr 13, 2010, 08:38 AM

Thanks guys! :) sometimes when I see other people buying flowers for funerals or someone who lost someone they'll avoid the brighter colors saying "well, someone just died..." I always feel like that's the best time to bring in something cheerful, to make people feel better. What are your thoughts? Would a brightly colored orchid be bad? Sometimes I see these really beautiful yellow and pink ones.

Catsmine · Apr 13, 2010, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by justcurious55

thanks guys! :) sometimes when i see other people buying flowers for funerals or someone who lost someone they'll avoid the brighter colors saying "well, someone just died..." i always feel like that's the best time to bring in something cheerful, to make people feel better. what are your thoughts? would a brightly colored orchid be bad? sometimes i see these really beautiful yellow and pink ones.

Definitely bright colors. Especially a live orchid. Make them smile two weeks from now.

JoeCanada76 · Apr 13, 2010, 03:56 PM

You all have great ideas. Defiantly good idea to have something colourful and with brownies and a nice card for sure.

The thing is some people do not accept anything or they do but usually makes announcements on what they would like.

I have seen announcements actually state not to bring flowers but that is obviously out of the norm. They took donations for a special cause...

Anyway, just mentioning that.

Joe

justcurious55 · Apr 13, 2010, 11:26 PM

Thanks for the input joe (and everyone else again). So far they haven't made any sort of announcements. We've got a little collection at work going to help them with the funeral costs. I made the brownies today, they look very yummy :)

Clough · Apr 14, 2010, 12:52 AM

Hi, justcurious55!

It's best to be taking advantage of the opportunities that we have, while we have them...

I remember that my mother used to dress in the most vivid colors for visitations and funerals.

Cards, flowers, food - all are appropriate. Even if you were to do something more than once!

Again, it's best to be taking advantage of the opportunities while we have them...

To show a loving heart will always be welcome!

Thanks!

dontknownuthin · Apr 16, 2010, 07:32 AM

I think your ideas are lovely, too. I will never forget the thoughtfulness of a close friend of my mother who brought sandwiches and cookies and set them up in the family lounge at the funeral parlor during my grandmother's wake. It meant a lot to us to be able to get a bite to eat without leaving, as our neighbors, friends and extended family were constantly coming and we did not want to miss anyone.