[talaniman]

Silent support= A shoulder to cry on, and moral support, NOT trying to give her fix it advice, or opinions, just a small measure of reassurance.

If she gets mad, shut up and let her vent and stay cool!

And don't make stupid promises you can't keep, such as "move in with me", UGH!!

That's never a solution. NEVER!!

Talaniman Rule-Room mates pay their share of the expenses.

That's why lovers make lousy room mates.

[vanheart]

Sounds like there's fixing to be done. (didnt happen in-between getting back together)

You first. Then relationships, let alone living together.

Here's a couple really honest things you said.

"She also feels that shes only with me cos it convenient"
"And shes been thinking about us in the future and she just can't see it"

Think before you act again.

[Scribble]

It's been almost 2 weeks since I posted. In those 2 weeks our relationship seems to be good we text each other often saying how much we love each other and we talked on the phone about why we broke up and all. She told me I was been really clingy and she said she can't breathe. And that she thought that breaking up with me was a good decision but at the same time we kind of regretted it and never stopped having feelings for me. However we did not see each other at all over those 2 weeks. But at I learn that I should give her room

Then on Saturday, I feel like she is acting weird right after her friend stayed over for 2 nights. She stopped texting me a lot. She only sent me text with really short sentence and ignore my text or will text back after one hour or two. This continued on Sunday and that day she was spending it with another friend, a guy, who she told me that he likes her. But he is only 15 or 16 in third year, my girlfriend is in sixth year and she is 18. So I'm not too worried but there always this thought in the back of my head since they are quite close physically haha anyway...

Yesterday I asked if I could ring her she said yeah. Our conversation was short and just joking. She seem all right on the phone. But once we hung up. We didn't text that much exchanging 2 or 3 text. Then she said goodnight and she usually say "love you" or something at the end of her text which she doesn't anymore but I did not say anything about it to her and just let it be.

This morning I got a text of her saying I should go home at around 2 o'clock so she can come over to my house. So I skipped a class to go home early and finish that picture she said I should draw her and waited. I got home I was really excited that I get to see her finally. Then at around ten past four she sent me a text just saying "Im not coming over". I was very angry when I replied to her, asking her "why at least give me a reason" and she hasn't text me back at all as well as not answering her phone after I rang her four times.

I feel like she's trying to ignore me and when she doesn't text back I didn't ask "Are you ok" or "Why are you not texting back?" because I don't want to be clingy like last time when we are going out. And I also don't text her if she doesn't text back. But now I just feel really angry and I texted her saying "Will you please text back?" but she still hasn't sent me back a reply.

I feel a bit miserable and angry about all this. I have no idea what is going on in her head she's not saying anything. She doesn't really reply to my text for a few days now and it is kind of bothering me but didn't want to say anything. Today got of college early to see her and finish the picture then all of a sudden she said she's not coming over without any explanation. I'm kind of regretting that I was been angry in the text about her not coming over but I was so blinded by my anger when I read that text. My hope was kind of high since I haven't seen her for 2 weeks and a bit now then it just dropped my hopes. I'm not going to text her now maybe she needed some room :(
Any advice?

Thank you for all the replies

[amicon]

There still seems to be no real communication,and its still her calling the shots-you leave school early and then she doesn't turn up,with no proper explanation?

You know ,I would be super busy and very unavailable.

[talaniman]

Round and round you go and where you end up at, nobody knows. Something more important or interesting came up, so she blew you off. So how long do you wait for an explanation that could have come when she told you she wasn't coming in the first place.

Geez dude, she has to know that that was a really rude disrespectful move, so why are you still there. Look up dignity and self respect, and I doubt you see your picture there.

Me, I disappear (forever), and go about my happy business, and let her do the wondering for a change. But after all the advice you have had, odds are you will forgive her for her bad behavior, and go back to collecting crumbs again.

Have fun!