[stan200]

Is there really such a thing as revealing too much personal information about yourself in dating? I mean shouldn't I be honest as early as possible about all my faults & weaknesses?

Like if I have an alcohol or drug problem or overeating problem I should let a woman know that as early as possible. I shouldn't even wait until the first date to tell her about my faults & weaknesses. I should do it on the first phone call.

This way I'm not wasting a woman's time who might consider these faults deal-breakers. It's better to hide my good qualities & brag about my faults.

[Larken85]

Wow man you got this dating game all wrong. You are trying to woo her not shew her away. You got to stop telling you every dark deep secret to every girl you are about to meet or you will not meet any of them.

I my name is Gizmo and I am a meth smoking, sex addict who's been in prison twice for the same thing. Does that really sound like a good pick up line?

See the thing you got to remember is that you are trying to impress the girl, not depress the heck out of her. You don't want a pitty date, you don't want her judging you. She needs to meet you to know you and to know that you are worth the trouble. If you are not even willing to go through that process than they don't think that you think they are worth it. And forget about wasting their time on a date, if they got time to date its free time. It's the time on the phone that you really don't know about, for all you know they could be really busy.

Just play the game and don't try taking short cuts. The first thing you do is impress her, then you get her to like you deeper, then you sit her down and tell her all the dirty secrets when you know you are going to get serious with this girl. She then decides whether she likes you enough to deal with it. Rejection sucks, I know first hand, but you have to take a risk or you will never know what will come of it. And perhaps you'll even find that girl that is right for you. But if you are throwing all that crap in their face even before they meet you, they will prejudge you and you are as good as dead to them as soon as you do.

[talaniman]

You don't have to tell her a darn thing until you know her well enough to judge whether she can handle you or not, or if you can handle her. Thats what dating is, having fun getting to know each other.
Like sex, it complicates things when you reveal too much to soon. Later she can at least have something good to balance what you think are deep dark secrets.

What if she is an obsessive controlling nut, or some one not worthy of trust? What if you tell her everything the first day, what else is there to learn?

Naw, no way do you give up all your gold to a stranger. Or coal either. So keep your secrets, and have fun.

[Gemini54]

Sheesh. How would you feel if some girl you'd just met spilled her guts about all her deep dark secrets the moment she started talking to you?

Wow. It would be pretty horrible eh? You'd think she was a head case wouldn't you? You'd probably start running for the hills wouldn't you?

Yes, you can reveal too much too early!

Try getting to know someone first - hey, even try having some fun and having a laugh! Life is too short to take things so seriously.

[jmjoseph]

At first, be nice and respectful. Try to let the girl see your GOOD qualities. And if it looks like she may be someone who you want to see more of, then, and only then, do you slowly start to reveal the negative parts of your life. If it's necessary to do so.

You don't want to scare off all the women that you meet. And you also don't want all of your business out in the street.

Can you share here some of this dark history? I mean, she's not going to see your picture on the ten most wanted list is she?