[LindsayAnneGouker]

My boyfriend and I were together for a little over a year. We were having some problems. He started a 2nd job, I was planning on going back school and he was in debt and very depressed. He started going over to a friend from high school house. Then one day he cheated on me with her and we broke up. He said he just wanted to be friends with me and stopped seeing her. I went over to get my stuff and he was a mess. He said he knew what he did was wrong and wanted to start over he was more of a mess than me. Then said he wanted to be friends and didn't want to be with anyone. He didn't feel right about himself and felt I deserved better. Sum1 who could spoil me. The next day I took off all the pix of us of my myspace page and he got mad and was really hurt. I told him I was going out to a club/bar with a girl from work that he knew and he knew she could be a real party girl and was hurt when I didn't text him the night we went out. Hes been there a couple times before we got together and bad things can happen there. Even when we weren't together he still acted like we were together and it was his job to protect me. We had discussed getting together again but we were both reluctant. So I told him either he wanted to be friends or together and I didn't want to hear he changed his mind in a month I needed to move on I made that clear. He said he understood. He cried more than me he was talking to people at his work about how he wished he was dead because of everything. He said one day he realized that if he let me move on he'd never have me again and 2 days after the conversation he said he wanted to work things out. We got back together a month ago but I don't know if I can ever really trust him again. The fact that he kept acting like were together when we weren't by trying to protect me was sweet and showed he did still care and didn't want anything to happen to me. I trust that he won't let anyone hurt me and I feel safe around him when I go to a bar or anywhere alone at night but when it comes to trusting him around another girl... I don't know what to think. One day I do trust him then my mom brings up the mistake I get to wondering.Can I really trust him again?

[CarrotTalker]

He cheated on you.

He said it himself "You deserve better".

Move on and go no contact. Ask him to seek a therapist to work through some of his issues.

You can tell him you appreciate that he owned up to his mistake and told you.

It's really about what feels right to you, it sounds like you are skeptical about trusting him again, which is perfectly normal. You are still young, I think you can find someone who will not do that to you.

[talaniman]

If you cannot, then leave the guy alone. And its bothersome that you have to constantly be reminded of his mistake.

I think you try and see what he does but if you cannot overcome your own issues, don't expect him to overcome his.

Supposedly he has learned his lesson. Now you have to cope with it. It takes time to regain lost trust, if it ever can be regained.

[roxypox]

Like the others said:

If you feel that you can't overcome what he did than you should leave it alone, move on and leave it behind you.

Also I will like to note that it sounds as if he has some issues and do you really want to be involved in all of that? It does sound like he learned from his mistake... the issues I'm referring to is the "I wish I was dead..." etc.

In any case... before you decide on the trust issue, maybe he should get some therapy for the other issues?

And

If you don't feel like you can move past what he did (which is understandable) than yeah... don't get back together.

(and on a side note: No chat speak please! Thanks! )

Roxy