[striped_tears32]

I am 16 years old, and a Christian. So all my life it's pretty much been a given that I should be attracted to the male sex. But since I was about 13, I've noticed an attraction to girls [checking them out at the mall, noticing how hot my girl friends were] and have regular fantasies about being with a girl. A few months ago a [female] friend and I got drunk and started making out, and I thought it was amazing. She, on the other hand, was a little uncomfortable afterwards and we don't talk much anymore. I am still very attracted to boys though just as much, if not more, than I am attracted to girls. I know I'm the only one who really knows if I'm bisexual, but does this just sound like a normal, curious teen girl? Or is this not normal?

[patrick12]

Its not normal in the eyes of the lord, I have known girls to mess around when they were younger and boys also that were not gay. We all have a tendence to sin what ever it mite be, we all have our hang ups, we must fight through these feeling what ever they are and do the right thing. It is very clear in the bible that homosexuality is wrong, and I'm sure your concience is telling you that also. I think that are young boys and girls are being conditioned through there schools and music and media in general saying it is OK at a very vonurable time in there life, and confusing the youth. The bottom line is that it is sin, and sin is wrong. Get good christian help not some one that is going to talk down to you but talk with you.

[hheath541]

First off, I would like to say, that being christian doesn't mean you can't be bisexual, or even gay. I have known many bisexual and gay people who were christian.

Now, to get down to answering your questions: it sounds very possible that you may be bisexual.

I went through much the same thing when I was your age. I found myself appreciating how my girl friends looked and being jealous when they had boyfriends. I told myself it was normal and didn't mean anything. Then I got to college and ended up with a crush on my roommate, and it became impossible to deny it anymore.

The label you place on yourself doesn't matter. All labels do is limit you. The ONLY important thing is that you feel good about who you are.

You can check out the link I'm posting at the end of this. They have a mailing list where you can talk to other lgbt and questioning teens without having to worry about being judged. You'll find people on the list going through situations like your's, and any number of others. It's a great place to interact and work though things out by talking to people who can relate to what you're going through.

Now, a cautionary word. Getting drunk and making out with your friends can be disastrous. I'm not going to go into the dangers of alcohol and underage drinking, I'm sure you hear that more than enough. Making out with friends, especially while drunk, can ruin friendships. She can discount it as just being drunk, while you see it as much more. She can convince herself that you took advantage of her, even if she initiated things. She can be scared of the feelings it awakens and pull away to avoid feeling them again. She may return the feelings, putting both of you in a relationship neither of you is ready for.

Before you even think of pursuing a relationship with another girl, make sure you'll be able to handle it. That means, being willing and able to tell the truth about the relationship and face the responses from other people, especially your families and friends. You'll need to be emotional and mentally ready to be out and open, even if you decide to keep your relationship a secret. If you're not ready, then you won't be able to handle the pressure of keeping the relationship hidden OR of being out.

http://www.youth-guard.org/

[EmoPrincess]

Had to spread the rep Heath, but Well said!