[albear]

Hi

My problem is I need to ask someone a question, but if I do I know it is going to hurt them, and will cause a lot of stress and worry, and really I don't want to ask, but I kind of need to.

Any tips?

[jmjoseph]

Does it concern anyone's safety?

Is this something that you MUST know the answer to?

You have to ask yourself if the bad outweighs the good.

Make your decision wisely.

Good luck.

[albear]

Thank you,

Yes,

I'm not sure, I think I already know the answer, and asking will just be to confirm.

Again, thanks

[Cat1864]

This may be tad bit late, but I just want to say: Sometimes, the questions that we think will cause stress and upset do the opposite. Sometimes, asking that difficult question allows the other person to release some of the stress he/she has been holding in.

If you are opening the lines of communication on a subject, be prepared to hear all of it and try to be open minded and not prejudge the situation.

Good luck. :)

[Stringer]

If it is something that is eating away at you and you feel that you need resolution then I would say yes. But as Cat has said be prepared Bear. Be prepared for a direct answer that may or may not change the relationship that you have with this person. Consider all possible responses that you may receive.

Stringer

[ohsohappy]

I'd also like to add that sometimes bringing something up that you think might cause stress or strong emothions can ALSO bring light to a situation and make things better. I was having doubts about my relationship with my BF for a while and I was scared to express them to him because I didn't want him to just break up with me because of it. (just because I doubt doesn't mean I want to break up) So I eventually expressed that doubt and he was GLAD I told him so that we could work on it, and we did. Your question can heal things too. If you haven't asked already, then good luck. Tell us if the outcome was positive or negative?

[albear]

Thank you all for the advice.

Unfortunately or fortunatly I chickened out and haven't asked this person yet, and its kind of too late.

At the moment though having had more time to think on it I think its better that I don't ask and I stick with what I believe the answer would be, at least for the time being.

[Cat1864]

In the future, if you do need to ask that question or if you need support to be there for the individual (or others involved), I'll be here giving what support I can. :)

[albear]

Thanks Cat :)