[danielle1896]

This guy he is a really good friend of mine and he asked me out. I said yes. But like when we are txting he says he loves me and seems like he really cares about me. But then when we are at school and there is people around I am just a friend, like he isn't the same person around me like he was before we started going out. And if its just me and him he sort of treats me a little different but not completely. Oh and in our choir class we played honey I love you but we change the rules where you can touch, so like he did honey I love you to me and put his arm around me. So does he really care and he is just shy or what?

[Enigma1999]

Hello Danielle,

Do you ever ask him why he is different with you when you are around other people?

[danielle1896]

I haven't yet. He will say I don't know. I know that for sure.

[Enigma1999]

Hello again,

I really think that you should tell him that it hurts your feelings. Don't say "bothers" you, say hurts you. I only say that because most people react better to the word hurt apposed to bothers. Does that make sense?

There could be many reasons he acts different towards you when others are around. The only way YOU will know is by asking him in a calm manner.

Communication, trust, and honesty are very crucial in a relationship, and since you are just starting, this will be a good trial run.

Good luck.

[danielle1896]

Okay yeah that makes sense.

[Enigma1999]

You are welcome!

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...im-449499.html

Is this the same guy?

[danielle1896]

No its not. The other guy he and I don't really talk anymore. Maybe once every couple of weeks and that's it.

[talaniman]

Wow! Another guy in 10 days? Ah young love. I think I have told you before to take the time to get to know someone, then you won't worry if he cares, or not. You will know.

[danielle1896]

Haha! It's been longer then 10 days more like 2 months. This guy though I am closer to then I was the other and I know him better so... yeah.