[saurraj]

Sir I want to ask you that after death when an individual is buried in graveyard, when relatives visit grave for reciting fatiha do a dead person comes to know that anyone is visiting him/her.
Secondly do that dead person have expectations from his relatives to come to offer prayers and fatiha? Does he wait for people to come?
Thirdly when we visit our loved ones in graveyard do they hear what we are telling them? I have heard that their sense of hearing works while in grave. Am I right?

Basically my young wife aged 23 years died on 18 Jan 2010. I have 01 year daughter. I visit my wife grave almost daily for prayers and fatiha. Sometimes I talk to her and also take my daughter to the garve. My daughter is now walking a little. I have above mentioned questions in my mind that does she know that me and our daughtter is visitng her, does she hear what I say, does she wait for us to come and see her.

I will be waiting for the reply sir... Regards

[firmbeliever]

Salaams suarraj,

Sorry to hear about your loss.May Allah bless her and grant your family patience in times of hardship.

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It is prescribed to visit graves in order to learn a lesson from that and to remember the Hereafter. That is subject to the condition that one does not say anything that will anger the Lord, such as calling upon the one who is buried or seeking his help instead of Allaah, or praising him and saying that he is for certain in Paradise, etc.

The purpose of visiting the graves is twofold:

(a) The visitor benefits from remembering death and the dead, remembering that their destiny will be either Paradise or Hell. This is the primary purpose of the visit.

(b) The deceased also benefits and is treated kindly by the visitor greeting him with salaams, making du'aa' for him, praying for forgiveness for him. This applies only to Muslims. Among the du'aa's that may be recited are:
Please refer link for the full article.
Islam Question and Answer - Etiquette of visiting graves
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Islam Question and Answer - Ruling on reciting Qur?aan for another person, living or dead
Islam Question and Answer - Do the dead visit or feel or see one another in their graves?

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