[Kitkat22]

ok i aprreciate everyones advice but since when is talking considered cheating? we've been close friends for 4 years long before him and his gf started going out so im not going to avoid my friend. Oh and Because he has/had a gf means that we can't be friends and still talk? He has been acting this way around me for the past month or so,changed not all the years we've been friends so something has obviously changed. We also have most of the same friends soo i know he doesnt flirt to this extent with every single girl.

Good luck!

[Kitkat22]

Good luck!

It could lead to that!

[talaniman]

If he just broke up, that makes you a rebound in my book. Stay friends, and that's it.

[Kitkat22]

If he just broke up, that makes you a rebound in my book. Stay friends, and thats it.

Focus on your school academics. Who wants to end up with a loser. He's after one thing. Don't end up getting in trouble with this guy. If he'd cheat on one he'll cheat on another. Athink about College and your future. I'm hoping you take this advise.:)

[talaniman]

He may just be the kind of guy that has to have someone, because he doesn't like to be alone.

There are many, both men, and women who feel that way.

[Kitkat22]

He may just be the kind of guy that has to have someone, because he doesn't like to be alone.

There are many, both men, and women who feel that way.

As I said before, concentrate on your school work, go to college and don't get into trouble with this guy. He is only one of many you will meet on your journey in life. Some will be good guys who truly want a friendship before you get too involved. Others will be players who want a one night stand in the backseat of a car. Wise up young lady...

[jezzeka888]

My close guy friend who I've started to have feelings for called me the other day (were on spring break so we haven't seen each other in a few days) asking me if a test we had taken in a class we have together was scantron or not. The test was last week, he sits right behind me in that class and knows we never pay attention or do anything in that class, and now he expects me to remember something like that? He's called me once before a couple of months ago at 1am singing love story to me (inside joke) and no he was not drunk.

Our relationship is pretty complicated, we get along super well and apparently we flirt a lot because people and even teachers have asked if we were dating. He just broke up with his girlfriend recentlly, and I don't know what will happen. But basically, do you think he was calling for the test or because he wanted to talk to me? My friends think he just wanted to talk to me and used that as an excuse.
Help?

[talaniman]

Clear the confusion up with an honest conversation.

Just ask him, and end the speculation, and get facts.

[Kitkat22]

Thats true, he's just NEVER said anything like that to me before. Were both 17, i'll be 18 next month. I know I sound like a 10 year old asking about this stuff..embarassing. it's just really confusing idk what to do and im worried about how other people see us. I mean if TEACHERS are asking if were a couple, when all we've ever done is talk to each in class and work on projects isnt that kind of odd?

Just be aware he has a girlfriend and don't read too much into it.:)

[jezzeka888]

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Had recently started to have some feelings for my close guy friend and I feel that he may feel the same way for me. It is very hard to say, and very confusing, but there have been moments where I've wondered if he does like me as more than a friend. Recently, I had a dream we were at school, he was in his volleyball sweats and we were sitting on a luch table talking. He wrapped his arms around me in a very "couplely" manner and he was calling me babe like he has started doing now and then the past few days. He mentioned something about how we kissed before which we never have. We had to "fake kiss" for a video project last year but that's it. He then told me to close my eyes and he kissed me. It was short and sweet, just a long peck you could say not some big makeout session, but in that kiss I remember feeling tingles all down my back and lips, I guess you could call it a "spark". After the kiss, I remember telling my close friends what just happened and how I've never felt that with anyone else I have kissed. It was the first thing I though about when I woke up this morning and I can't stop thinking about how real that kiss felt. I've never had a dream like thins about anyone before. What do you think this means? Idk if I should make a move or not..

[RadioActive697]

Well it means you like him. But is it for the right reasons? I would try to get to know him a little better. And I wouldn't hop in and tell him how you feel. Just get to know him like when your with him just start a conversation and you could ask him questions. But don't make it sound like your trying to interview him. Make it sound fun and normal. And see if he's showing signs that he likes you then you could probably tell him how you feel.
Goodluck.

[Kitkat22]

Well it means you like him. But is it for the right reasons? I would try to get to know him a little better. And I wouldn't hop in and tell him how you feel. Just get to know him like when your with him just start a conversation and you could ask him questions. But dont make it sound like your trying to interview him. Make it sound fun and normal. And see if he's showing signs that he likes you then you could probaly tell him how you feel.
Goodluck.

Dreams are just that sweetie... Dreams... Good luck!! :)

[Jake2008]

With this dream, you have manifested a scenereo with the boy you are attracted to. It has come from confusion, attraction, hesitation, perhaps mixed messages, and likely a bit of tepidation.

Dreaming is a safe place to put all of those things into a picture, or impression, in order to make sense of them.

If I had had that dream, I would consider it a sign that I have very strong feelings for this guy, and would likely make a move. Not rent a hotel room or anything like that, but ask him over to your house to watch movies, or chat on Facebook sort of thing.

Him not making a move may be his own insecurity, and you taking a few small steps might break the ice.

I don't know too many people who haven't felt an 'attraction' to another person, and that attraction may be non-verbal and not at all physical. It is a feeling that leads us to exploration to see if the spark is mutual.

I would wait a few days until the dream hangover goes away. When you aren't thinking about the dream continuously, and it isn't any longer in every thought, then think about approaching him with something simple.

[jezzeka888]

I've started to have feelings for one of my close guy friends and I have no idea how he feels about me, it changes all the time and its so confusing. There's days where I'm like yes he likes me, and days where I'm like of course he doesn't what was I thinking? Here's why:
We've been friends all throughout high school (were seniors now)he had a girlfriend for about a year and a half from a different school and they broke up a couple months ago. Even when he was with his girlfriend he would flirt like CRAZY. He sits behind me this year, and sometimes he'll play with my hair or write his name on my shoulder, call me babe etc. He jokes around with me a lot and teases me, we make each other laugh and We talk all the time in class, and online too about anything at all. We've been mistaken as a couple a few times (once by a teacher!). We both play volleyball, and at first he wanted me to go to every home game and some away games, when I missed a couple, he acted all hurt saying he was looking for me in the stands. Then he also asked some other girls I'm friends with to go too, to start a cheering section. I've called him to hang out twice, but it fell through. When we talk online, I usually start the conversation.
Over spring break when we hadn't seen each other in a few days, he called asking me if a test we had taken in a class we have together was scantron or not. The test was the week before, he sits right behind me in that class and knows we never pay attention or do anything in that class, and now he expects me to remember something like that? My friends think he just wanted a reason to talk to me but I'm not sure.
Im good at art, and he asked me to draw a portrait of him and I did. It's now hanging by his bed.
Im just so confused about how he feels and I can't just ask him how he feels because our relationship is so jokey and I don't want to ruin anything. What should I do? How do you think he feels about me?

[Homegirl 50]

I don't know.
He could be just flirting.
Why don't you ask him out for a hamburger or something and as you guys talk, maybe you'll get a better idea.

[Showme_urmove]

Will first of all, he just broke up with his ex relationship of 1 year. He can use you like a rebound it's a possibility, he might feel alone and needs someone to show affection and you're the perfect candidate.
We will never know unless you till him how you feel, but remember everything we do there is a consequence. He might feel awkward and starts acting all weird around you, or he might turn up being a jerk, him knowing that your into him, he might just give you some mix signals and hoping he can use you as friends of benefits so he can full fill his sexual needs.
Just be prepared for everything the best or worst, he might like you but we will never know unless you go and let him know. Wish you for the best.

[talaniman]

Why don't you just talk to the guy instead of copy and pasting the same thing on here for two months??

[Homegirl 50]

I think you are looking for one of us to tell you this guy is secretly in love with you and you should just cast caution to the wind and go for it. I don't think that will happen.

He has been flirting with you for years why, because you let him, it made him feel special. Now he doesn't have a girl friend so maybe he thinks he'll maybe he'll just she ho far he can go with you. You don't need to be a rebound!

But if you really want to know what the deal is, ask him.

[Kitkat22]

Thats true, he's just NEVER said anything like that to me before. Were both 17, i'll be 18 next month. I know I sound like a 10 year old asking about this stuff..embarassing. it's just really confusing idk what to do and im worried about how other people see us. I mean if TEACHERS are asking if were a couple, when all we've ever done is talk to each in class and work on projects isnt that kind of odd?

Not really... maybe you're reading too much into this. I wish you luck.

[EddieW3]

I can see how this can be very confusing for you. First off it is possible that flirting is just his personality. I personally flirt with everyone I know friends, significant others, guy, girl, siblings, parents, pets, and sometimes even inanimate objects. It might not mean that he likes you like that. You might need to pay attention to how he acts around other people as well. Now if it is just you that he acts like this around then its possible that he feels very comfortable with you. I would say ask him strait up, but if he is anything like me he will probably make a joke out of it. He might not know his own feelings yet and like both you and his girlfriend, in which case he needs to figure out what he wants. It is also possible that he does like you, but is afraid to lose you as a friend. If you like him back then id suggest you either casually bring up, elude to it, or throw it in as a joke and watch his reaction.

I hope this helps.