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    thatgirl Posts: 17, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Dec 13, 2006, 01:30 PM
    HUGE Mistake
    I was seeing this guy for a while and recently I told him that I think we should just be friends. We had only gone on one date. Now I want to to go back out with him. I called him to tell him this. He said he was busy and he was going to call me back. This was over a week ago. Should I call him again or is he just not interested? When I broke up with him I told him that he was too old and too experienced(im 17 he's 20; I'm a virgin he's had sex with 3 girls). The age thing doesn't bother me anymore. He was just moving way too fast for a first date. I want to tell him all of these things but he hasn't called me back and I don't want it to seem like I'm "chasing" him or something. I made a mistake by breaking up with him and now I want him back.
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    Dec 14, 2006, 04:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    i was seeing this guy for a while and recently i told him that i think we should just be friends. we had only gone on one date.
    One date is not seeing someone.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    now i want to to go back out with him. i called him to tell him this. he said he was busy and he was going to call me back. this was over a week ago.
    Hint

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    should i call him again or is he just not interested?
    Well, he's not interested, but not because of your personality.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    when i broke up with him i told him that he was too old and too experienced(im 17 he's 20; im a virgin he's had sex with 3 girls).
    That's why he's not interested. I'm guessing he's had sex with more than 3 girls. He saw you as a toy and when he put the moves on you and you rejected him he was no longer interested. If it was going to be a struggle then why bother.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    the age thing doesnt bother me anymore.
    Why did it change? Once he gave up on you, did you suddenly then realize you wanted him.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    he was just moving way too fast for a first date.
    Yeah, he wanted a piece of tail.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    i want to tell him all of these things but he hasn't called me back and i don't want it to seem like im "chasing" him or something. i made a mistake by breaking up with him and now i want him back.
    You were never going out with him. You never broke up. He just wanted you for some sex and once he got that he was moving on. If you want to tell him your ready for that go ahead, but be ready to say goodbye once your done.
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    Dec 14, 2006, 07:59 PM
    I will agree so far, he was hoping to be your first and add you to his score card, Too many guys are like that at his age, they find younger girls for fun and sex and move on and move on and move on.

    Most likely you have been saved from making a seroius mistake by saying no on the first date, most likely he though he could go all the way on the first date and most likely that would have still been the last date also.
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    Dec 15, 2006, 06:32 AM
    Don't try calling him any moe or even take his calls... if he calls. One less heartache.
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    Dec 15, 2006, 10:54 AM
    No, you did NOT make a huge mistake. The huge mistake would be the one you're TRYING to make: going out with him again, getting laid, getting a STD or pregnant or both, getting dumped, getting your heart broken, being miserable for months, years, or the rest of your life. PLEASE don't do it! You deserve better than this user, or another one like him. Wait until you find someone who has more to give than his penis and wants more from a relationship than some quick booty. It will take more than a date or two to find out a guy's true character and intentions, so don't be in such a hurry. It's a strange paradox, but in matters of love, the faster you go, the longer it takes to get there. Slower is better, faster, and cheaper. Trust me on this. I know whereof I speak.
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    Dec 15, 2006, 02:55 PM
    Thanks for the advice everyone. Now I'm glad that I didn't call him back.
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    Dec 15, 2006, 06:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl
    thanx 4 the advice everyone. now im glad that i didnt call him back.
    Not a problem. It's what we do.

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