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sokasoka · Mar 22, 2010, 06:15 PM

I've been with my GF for 9 months now, we both had previous relationships in the past with other people but we didn't really fall in love until we loved each other, at least this is the deal for me, she's the first girl I ever feel like this towards, and she said that I am the first for her to love.

The first I met her we were always together and when we're not together we're on the phone, she was employed, but her job wasn't that much of hours, but 2 months ago she moved to a new job which has more hours, and ever since we don't see each other or talk as much as before, now we see each other once a week or 2 weeks, and we talk every night for almost 30 minutes before she sleeps, and mostly she sleeps while we're talking.

2 weeks ago, I started to feel that she's not giving me any attention, like if I don't call her, she doesn't, I tell her that I love her but she replies that she loves me too with a cold way, and a few days ago, I really wanted to talk to her, so we talked for almost 30 minutes, then she said that she wanted to go, I asked to stay a bit longer, but she replied saying that she's always in work, and when she gets back from work she's over the phone with me and that she doesn't have any time for herself, but I call her like after 3-4 hours from when she gets back from work, and it's when she wants to sleep.

Plus, back when I had to work almost all the day, I always seen her and talked to her as much as she wanted, sometimes when she felt sad and needed to see me I used to leave my work and go see her, and sometimes she would wake me up to talk to me and I wouldn't ever say anything.

I am really confused, am I doing anything wrong?

What should I do?

Help?

talaniman · Mar 22, 2010, 08:00 PM

Can't you back off, give her some breathing room, and find other things to do, beside talk to her?

You can't be joined at the hip all the time.

sokasoka · Mar 22, 2010, 09:09 PM

What confuses me the most is that I tried this, but she got pissed off that I didn't call her or text her last night!

Larken85 · Mar 22, 2010, 10:09 PM

I know the feeling. My fiancé has done something similar. She always wants me to jump anytime she wants it but when she is busy or sleeping I better not bug her. It is annoying. Best way to treat the situation in my opinion is simply to get over it. Women are fickle sometimes and its very hard to understand them. Also I think that they may only see things from their point of view (as do most of us) and I know the feeling to wish that she would consider your feelings here. But also this is a recient and probably stressful change in hours. She may still be adjusting so just give her time. And instead of calling her when she is trying to sleep, call her an hour after she gets home. If she wants to talk to you later then she can call you.

sokasoka · Mar 22, 2010, 10:45 PM

She doesn't answer if I call like an hour after she gets home, and if she answers she says that she busy and will call me back when she wants to sleep, it's like I'm her sleeping pills, lol.

The thing that I am wondering about is that when I didn't call her last night, she didn't call or text, and I know that she had credits, she blamed me for not calling her instead... isn't this weird?