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    swtsweety Posts: 3, Reputation: 2
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    Mar 22, 2010, 03:19 PM
    He says he needs some time
    I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months. We met through a friend and hit it off great. We hung out a lot and have many things in common. Recently he got a very demanding job and our time together has lessened. He would try and see me as much as possible but would also need to focus on other stuff. Friday was fine, everything went well. He kept calling me baby and said he missed me and everything. Then Saturday morning he texted me and everything was normal. By Saturday night he was a wreck. I messaged him and he was like I am a mess. I can't talk about it. Don't hate me, I don't hate you. I got upset and said what ever and he went off saying he was going through mental stuff that he didn't talk about with anyone and couldn't talk about it with me. He said he thought it was gone but it came back and now he needs some time. So that's how it ended Saturday. Sunday he messaged me and we were fine until I noticed he wouldn't calll me baby. He would call me hun, so I joked around saying I was down graded and he was like no, I still care about you but its complicated. I was like what is so complicated and he was like I can't tell you, but I don't want you to hate me because I am not ready for a relationship right now. He kept saying he wanted time and space and I was getting upset and ended the relationship. Now he is cold to me and won't speak with me. I said I would wait for him and he said that was up to me but he doesn't know if he will ever be ready for me or anyone. I cried my eyes out and said why? And he yelled at me saying I said what I said, I am done, The more I look and read what I wrote it looks like he broke up with me and there is no chance of us getting back together, but I text-ed him and said I would give him space, but received no response. Am I fighting a lost cause? I really like him and I feel I pushed him to far. Its all my fault.
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    Mar 22, 2010, 03:56 PM

    Wow, this is all very intense for 2.5 months. He needs space and is going through a rough time. He isn't willing to let you in to help him out, so there's really not much else you can do.

    This guy has told you that he isn't ready for a relationship right now and may not be for a long time. Don't wait around for him. Move on. Next time I would take things a little bit slower.
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    Mar 22, 2010, 04:11 PM

    Your just waisting your time, 2.5 months that's not even enough time to really get to know the person behind that mask. Take your lost and just be happy that he ended it now instead later when you really get attached. His not for you and your not for him, you deserve someone better! Your only hurting yourself by not letting go and accepting the fact that its over.
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    Mar 22, 2010, 08:11 PM

    You have a guy that won't talk so don't blame yourself for his issues, just leave him alone, and be glad you know he is a flake.

    Look at this like you dodged a bullet.
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    Mar 22, 2010, 08:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    You have a guy that won't talk so don't blame yourself for his issues, just leave him alone, and be glad you know he is a flake.

    Look at this like you dodged a bullet.
    Very good advice.
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    Mar 22, 2010, 11:45 PM

    Leave him alone to sort out his life.

    It was fun while it lasted and now its over.

    Next time,take time to get to know the guy before you jump in.

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