[packer2007]

I have been dating and now living with this man for 6 months. Total dating 10 months. HHe is great, we get along so great everything alike, just perfect together. He has told me he loves me very much and I him. He has never married but did live with a woman for 7 years(but she wasn't the one he said)came close to marriage but never did. He has been a bachelor for so long does that mean he will never marry? I am very happy with everything as it is, but I thought if I don't get married fine if I do great.(I have been married he hasn't we are both 50) My counselor said the odds are not good-but we just are so great together. Just wondering??

[talaniman]

Doesn't look good for the marriage thing with him, but you never know.

[justcurious55]

Only he could answer that. Have you talked to him about marriage?

[Fr_Chuck]

Not really a bachlor if he was living with someone for 7 years.

But to answer with a question.

Why or what would motivate him to get married, he already has you living with him, so he has every benefit ( except tax deduction) that marriage would give.
So once you moved in, you took the chances of marriage way down

[jmjoseph]

Just enjoy yourself. No one here knows if or when he will ever marry.

If he is such a good man, and he truly knows how much it means to you, then he will probably come around one day for you. That's my guess anyway.

But it the meanwhile, don't push the point.

Good luck.

[Jake2008]

He is a man that chose to not marry, and probably just didn't find the right woman.

To me that does not indicate that he will never marry. He could be more typical, with one or more marriages that ended in divorce, with kids all over the place, up the wazoo in debt. Maybe a string of broken relationships or one night stands that never went anywhere.

I think your counsellor is wrong. Where love happens, there is always a chance it will turn into something more permanent, like marriage. Who is she to say he's not marriage material, just because he's never been married, and he's 50 instead of 25.

It's all about communicating your needs. If marriage is something you want and expect out of a committed relationship, and he is not willing, then that is not a fault of his, more than a decision you have to make for yourself.

If you are fine with the way things are, then more power to you. I hope the two of you have a long, successful relationship.

But, if the relationship is going to work, and marriage is on your mind down the road, then you owe it to yourself to just talk to him about it. See where he sits with the issue, and get the cards on the table.

[Devorameira]

It's always possible that he'll marry you, but I'd say it's pretty improbable. There's no incentive at all for him to marry you. You've given him all the benefits of marriage without the license.

If you're happy with the arrangement then I would just not worry about it. Live your life and be happy. :)