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    #81

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:04 PM

    Perfect.

    So you know that. Nows its just time & living your life.

    Good that you are making plans.

    If you really want you both to move on, then don't worry about the constant texts & 24/7. NC is walking the walk.

    Kind of like love rehab.
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    #82

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    Perfect.

    So you know that. Nows its just time & living your life.

    Good that you are making plans.

    If you really want you both to move on, then dont worry about the constant texts & 24/7. NC is walking the walk.

    Kinda like love rehab.
    What do I do if he does try to contact me? Do I ignore him?
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    #83

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:13 PM

    Yup.
    Until he stops.

    If you really want to accelerate things, delete his numbers, email, FB, whatever.

    That will save you from waivering emotionally. Feels cruel & sh$$ty at first, but believe me, it will save you the heartache.

    I did it after 5 days, didn't know what the hell I was doing. But it works.
    This is all about you healing and getting back to normal. Not about hurting anyone.
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    #84

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    Yup.
    Until he stops.

    If you really want to accelerate things, delete his numbers, email, FB, whatever.

    That will save you from waivering emotionally. Feels cruel & sh$$ty at first, but believe me, it will save you the heartache.

    I did it after 5 days, didnt know what the hell I was doing. But it works.
    This is all about you healing and getting back to normal. Not about hurting anyone.
    I just find it so weird being so close with someone to ending things like this! I already deleted his number but know it off by heart! I know I won't contact him anyway though!
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    #85

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:23 PM

    Yup its weird. Not for us to question. We feel.

    I still remember my ex's. Can't wait until I don't anymore. I have a good memory. Too good.

    Good for you chick. (can I call you that? Hehehe.. )
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    #86

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    Yup its weird. Not for us to question. We feel.

    I still remember my ex's. Can't wait until I dont anymore. I have a good memory. Too good.

    Good for you chick. (can I call you that? hehehe..)
    oh you no prob! Ha ha! Funny story about a week ago I was ringing one of my old phones to see where it was, couldn't find it and couldn't understand why it was saying the number out of use about an hour later it clicked with me I was dialling an exs num from about 5 years that! How random and weird is that!
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    #87

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:34 PM

    Maybe that was a sign. To delete.

    If we can't laugh through this, then were crying.

    Hope this all made you feel better. You will get through this, I have faith in you.
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    #88

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    maybe that was a sign. to delete.

    if we can't laugh through this, then were crying.

    hope this all made you feel better. you will get through this, i have faith in you.

    This was from a past boyfriend I was with 5 years ago! His number was well deleted! Strange I remembered it after 5 years! You I know il get through it eventually! I'm just very impatient and want that time to be now! And yes all this made me feel better thank you!
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    #89

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:44 PM

    Yup, I understood that. I was being zen and cynical.

    Post and vent away. That's why were here.

    Another day, chick... Rock on.
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    #90

    Feb 24, 2010, 07:49 PM

    Thanks guys n gals ye all rock!
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    #91

    Mar 8, 2010, 07:20 PM
    Ex contacted me after 2 weeks of no contact totally didn't expect it! Kept ringing me and I kept ignoring his calls! Eventually he text saying that he realised that he made a big mistake letting me go!
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    #92

    Mar 8, 2010, 08:37 PM

    Keep no contact and delete his text message.
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    #93

    Mar 8, 2010, 08:42 PM

    Don't cave.

    I got ones too.

    Don't mistake "mistakes" for loneliness or guilt.

    You are doing so well, don't screw that up. You will regret it.

    Be cool. NC


    We don't let people break our hearts, then want to come back willy nilly w/a text

    Doesn't work that way. Sorry dude.

    As if.


    Remember, actions speak louder than words.

    Especially texts, how casual desperate & sh$$TY? Its more BS. That you don't need.

    Delete & block.
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    #94

    Mar 9, 2010, 07:13 AM

    OK thanks! Go me!!
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    #95

    Mar 12, 2010, 11:14 PM

    Delete and implement NC
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    #96

    Mar 13, 2010, 01:04 AM

    You shouldn't plan things out like that..
    You both need to give each other space, and see what happens.
    Go with the flow and let fate do its part.

    Or else things will happen un naturally. And that's never good.

    And rules like that contradict what you guys are trying to do here..
    Pick one
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    #97

    Mar 5, 2013, 08:33 PM
    Would just like to thank ye all for the good advice! I took it all on board and 2 years on I am with the most gorgeous man and blessed with a baby boy! Couldn't be happier! Things really do happen for a reason :)
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    #98

    Mar 6, 2013, 05:11 AM
    Thank you for the update and glad everything worked out for you. :)

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