[ssoni]

I love a guy since 4-5 years, and we both started dating each other in December 2009, I see my future with him, whereas, he loves me but says things cannot happen cause of his family issues as he being a gujarati and me a punjabi. I would like to know will things happen between us , cause I majorly love him and have come a long way here where I am his girlfriend now, please help me guiding me with the details given below:
His date of birth: 25th, April,1984
My date of birth: 29th,may, 1988

[Cat1864]

I am sorry, but I can't tell you what will happen in the future based on birth dates. All I can do is give you advice based on the information that you have given.

I know you say you have loved him for several years, however, you have only been dating him for a few (three) months. It is really too soon to know if a match based on love can stand up against the realities of your being from different cultural groups. It sounds like he isn't willing to go against his family's wishes and is in some way trying not to make you any promises. Promises that I don't think he is willing to keep.

How does your family feel about him? Do they know about him?

I think you are on different levels of commitment. I don't know if you will ever be on the same level where outside pressures wouldn't tear the relationship apart. That said, I think you should sit down and discuss where you both see the relationship going. I think it is unfair to you if he is only dating you until someone his family would find suitable comes along.

Try to keep the discussion as calm as possible. Listen to what he has to say as well as saying how you feel. It may be that this relationship isn't meant to last, but good luck.

[Devorameira]

He's told you that there won't be a future for your two, so if that's what you really are looking for, you need to move on and find somebody that is available to form a life-long relationship.