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Mel_126 · Mar 7, 2010, 04:23 AM

Recently I dated a guy, things were going well and all, and then while kissing he began to sometimes (only a few times) breath heavily, and touch me and as I didn't feel comfortable I grabbed his hand..
Then he told me that if I get uncomfortable I should tell him (instead I always grabed his hand and he stopped)
The question is, can it be safe to still go out with him or he might lose control or something?
He is okay, I don't think he would want to take advantage on me or something

Appreciate any advice:)

shazamataz · Mar 7, 2010, 05:16 AM

How old are you to start with?

When you ask him to stop or move his hand does he actually stop, or does he try to keep going?

Mel_126 · Mar 7, 2010, 06:38 AM

I'm 16
No he stops

shazamataz · Mar 7, 2010, 07:58 AM

I wouldn't be too worried then.
If he has always stopped when you tell him to then it shows that he respects your wishes.
Have you talked to him about how far you want to go?
You don't want him to be in the mindset of "it will happen soon" if you are uncomfortable with anything.

Be upfront, say what you will and won't do so he gets the message loud and clear.

talaniman · Mar 7, 2010, 10:41 AM

As long as he stops when you move his hand, or say NO, don't worry. Hmm, I see you finally found a guy for yourself. That's great, have fun, within reason of course.

Mel_126 · Mar 7, 2010, 11:13 AM

No I haven't told him anything about how far I want to go, but I will when we get closer etc.

Originally Posted by talaniman

Hmm, I see you finally found a guy for yourself. Thats great, have fun, within reason of course.

Yeah.. guess I did:)

Thank you for taking time to help

AlwysConfezzled · Mar 7, 2010, 03:31 PM

Great! But mabey you should tell him sooner, rather than later, it may go too far and you could spiral out of control, leaving you wondering where it went wrong.

GOOD LUCK TO YA!:)

ked1 · Mar 7, 2010, 03:58 PM

I think it is good that he stops when knows you want him to stop. If he is far from getting angry, but then what made you ask? By the way,you are 16, if he is older than you, by how much?

Mel_126 · Mar 8, 2010, 12:01 PM

He is 17

ked1 · Mar 10, 2010, 06:18 PM

Okay. There are too many of those old men going after women who obviosly are too young, and the women are too afraid of them. But he just may have had a bad experience re. the hand thing.

Mel_126 · Apr 22, 2010, 04:42 AM

Hi, I'm 16 and I’ve been going out with this boy for two months now, and lately we have become boyfriend and girlfriend.
At first I really liked him.. but now, there come moments when I don’t know if I like him or not, like I don’t know if I’m just using him for not getting lonely as I have nobody else but him who comforts me (I know it’s wrong, but everyone needs someone right?).
Sometimes I think that we can last for long together,. but sometimes I see him childish and I feel not interested in him anymore.. but then again I say to myself: “nobody’s perfect.. neither are you”.
I surely don’t want to hurt him! He really seems to be into me, really cares and all and he literally said it in my face that he wouldn’t know what to do if I ever leave him. I don’t know what to do, it’s like I want him for only one reason: to have someone to love me.. but I don’t know if I'm ready to love him back :s I know I am being rude (guess I am childish here), but I don’t know what I must do/how should I feel
Any help, please :)

mudweiser · Apr 22, 2010, 04:49 AM

Welcome to being 16.

I remember when I was that age I dated or went out with this one guy, I liked him but once he became my boyfriend I didn't like him anymore.

Moral of the story is that your 16, feelings change, your still growing up, hell it still happens to me today and I'm 20 something... I like some guy, then he asks me out and then I'm like "yeah I don't think so".

Women are funny. We change out minds a lot.

So I think what your going through is normal. If you don't like him, then dump him, no use in being with someone you don't like!

It would hurt him more if you stayed with him and forced the relationship on yourself than it would be for you to dump him.

Kitkat22 · Apr 22, 2010, 04:52 AM

If you feel uncomfortable with him and you want some space, tell him so. Sixteen is an age when you should be concentrating on your education.

Don't feel obligated to him.. he's a boyfriend.. not a husband. Be honest and tell him how you feel... Good Luck

Mel_126 · Apr 22, 2010, 05:05 AM

I guess you're right,
.. but then again, sometimes I DO like him.
I thought maybe try to be away from him for a couple of days and see how it feels like, if I don't miss him and it would feel like nothing's wrong, than I'll dump him; should I try it?

.. and thanks for helping :)

Kitkat22 · Apr 22, 2010, 05:09 AM

Originally Posted by Mel_126

i guess you're right,
..but then again, sometimes i DO like him.
i thought maybe try to be away from him for a couple of days and see how it feels like, if i dont miss him and it would feel like nothing's wrong, than i'll dump him; should i try it?

.. and thanks for helping :)

You're welcome and be happy!:)
If you're happier without him after a couple of days or a week
Then you need to break-up permanently. :)

Mel_126 · Apr 22, 2010, 05:13 AM

Thanks :)

Kitkat22 · Apr 22, 2010, 05:16 AM

Originally Posted by Mel_126

thanks :)

You're welcome... Have a great day... Blessings:):)

Mel_126 · Jun 10, 2010, 01:19 PM

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4months now (we are 16 and 17years old), but I haven't told my parents anything about it. I always told them I was going out with my friends.
I didn't tell them from the beginning, because of various reasons: because I was not sure I was going to continue going out with him and didn't want them to know about something which ends before it even starts, another reason was that I was afraid they won't let me hang out with him anymore, and last reason: they won't let me stay late etc anymore.
But now I think there has passed enough time to tell them, but the problem is how. I am really afraid how to face them. I don't want to tell them that I have been going out with him for 4months, I want to tell them that it's the 2nd/3rd time, but I'm scared of their reaction.. any suggestions/advice?

Thanks a lot for reading :)

redhed35 · Jun 10, 2010, 01:35 PM

I don't think they will be impressed if you continue lying,come clean and be honest.

It's a sign of good character if you can tell the truth and be honest,and it's a good sign that they can be proud of you.

They may want to meet the young man to 'check' him out so to speak.

When you go out and your parents want to know who you are with and what your doing,its not that their being nosy,they are responsible for you,and they are trusting you to tell the truth,they may be upset that you have been hiding where you have been and who you have been with.

My advice,be honest with them,don't sulk if they don't agree,talk to them and try and find a compromise.

I wish · Jun 10, 2010, 01:37 PM

Why not give your relationship more time to develop before telling your parents?

In some cultures, when you tell your parents, it means that the relationship is getting serious. Otherwise, you're just view as regular friends.

There's no reason to rush to tell your parents about a new boyfriend. A good compromise would be to introduce him to your parents as a regular friend. As long as they are aware of his existence. The label of boyfriend can come later when your parents get more comfortable with him and when your relationship with him is stronger.