So sorry for your situation Bjo. I feel your pain.
And sadly for you I can only offer advice that I know you won't want to hear right now, but it is advice none the less that has been offered to many others who have come here in the same situation and it has helped them.
If she has said it is over and has ended it, then unfortunately it is over. Finished and there is not much you can do about it.
As far as the counseling goes, often people when breaking up with someone they lovED, will say things to soften the blow. It helps them feel less guilt and you feel less pain. It gives you a false hope to hang onto and is very unfair despite their intentions not necessarily being this.
Right now, she simply doesn't want to be with you. Counseling won't help this. Crying, begging and pleading from you won't help anything either.
As hard as it is for you I know, you are going to just have to accept that she is gone now and move on.
You are allowed to be sad and upset. You are allowed to feel pain. You can go and be with your friends and family and tell them how much your hurting and how unfair it is. It is OK to grieve.
The best thing I can suggest and I know I won't be the only one, is to completely cut contact with her. You need to do this to begin to heal. Calling her, emailing her, texting, myspce etc. will not allow to begin healing. It will just make it worse.
What you have to do now is work on you. Make yourself the No.1 priority. Find other things to do as hard as it is. Exercise, eat well, hanging with buddies, work hard at work, school etc.
I found running and working out at the gym a good help. It helped to take my mind of her. Plus it makes you feel better about yourself.
Others will give you more advice on getting over it but right now I just ask you to leave her alone and concentrate on getting yourself to healthy state. We can deal with her in the future IF / WHEN you have to.
Good luck and stick around and get as much help as you can here. We all know that you need it right now and understand what you are going through!
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