[sweetpea1987]

To make this short my problem is this: my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and have lived together for one year and we're are very much in love! Now I'm ready for the big step in our relationship.. MARRIAGE! We've discussed it several times and came to the solution that I would have to finish college before we "tie the knot" and he says that is his finally answer on that topic! At first I was okay with that before I moved in with him because I had no idea how I would feel after we were together! Now that I've been with him this long I don't want to wait! And I'm not being pushy but I also have my morals tuging on my heart!! I moved in with him in hopes to be married in the future so I did not let that bother me at first. I don't want to live in sin if you know what I mean! My boyfriend does not want to talk about it anymore and when I get in a depressive mood and feel like crying my eyes out over this he gets upset and it opens that can of worms and the "how we discussed it is final" which breaks my heart! My question is simple.. how do I approach this topic with him and have a meaningful convercation with him that explains the way I feel! How can I change his mind and show him that I can go to college and hold down a job and help our new little family and be married at the same time.. how do I show him I need a chance?

[Canada_Sweety]

Why the rush? Why don't you just wait a little while. A little waiting might do you some good.

[stonewilder]

Why was your morals not tugging on your heart a year ago when you moved in with him?
You moved in with him in hopes of being married in the future. If that were the case why not just wait till you were married? Last, as CS said, "Why the rush?" You've been living together as husband and wife anyway and bring in morals and hopes as an excuse to get married now is just BS.

[DatingDiva]

To make this short my problem is this: my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and have lived together for one year and we're are very much in love! Now I'm ready for the big step in our relationship..MARRIAGE! We've discussed it several times and came to the solution that I would have to finish college before we "tie the knot" and he says that is his finally answer on that topic! At first I was okay with that before I moved in with him because I had no idea how I would feel after we were together! Now that I've been with him this long I don't want to wait! And I'm not being pushy but I also have my morals tuging on my heart!!! I moved in with him in hopes to be married in the future so I did not let that bother me at first. I don't want to live in sin if you know what I mean! My boyfriend does not want to talk about it anymore and when I get in a depressive mood and feel like crying my eyes out over this he gets upset and it opens that can of worms and the "how we discussed it is final" which breaks my heart! My question is simple..how do I approach this topic with him and have a meaningful convercation with him that explains the way I feel! How can I change his mind and show him that I can go to college and hold down a job and help our new little family and be married at the same time..how do I show him I need a chance?

You already HAD the discussion with him. And you agreed to move in until you BOTH wanted to get married. You can't agree to the rules and then change them later on. Cool your heals about marriage. You DO have too much going on. Graduate. Get real jobs. Start a grown up life and then you can "help your new little family." The fact that you've already talked about this with your guy and now you're still obsessed with it is a clear indication that you're not ready to get married yet.

[Liz1287]

I think your right about morals and living in sin. Getting married would solve that but you also both need to be ready. If either one of you need more time their should be separate living arrangements. You should really talk to your boyfriend about this. Don't be surprised if he still doesn't want to get married but also don't put down your bad feelings about how your feeling living together unmarried. Be right even if you don't live together right now..

[Gemini54]

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