[tony71]

Nothing has changed since we haven't talked. She seems to want to be friends since I was part of her life for 5 years, but who knows. Anyway she is suppose to contact me today to go out tonight, I'm not going to contact her unless she does first..

[I wish]

Two things to keep in mind:

1) If you ever consider getting back to, make sure you've fixed the things that broke you up in the first place, otherwise it will blow up again.

2) Going out on a date will surely build false hope for both of you. If you're both on the same page and both looking to re-spark the relationship, then go ahead. If you're not on the same page, then at least one of you is going to get terribly hurt and prolong the pain and suffering.

[tony71]

I wish,
You are right about the false hope. I'm not going to look too much into it and if she calls me today then we may go out..

[talaniman]

Friends with benefits, hangout buddies, just dating whatever you call it. Either enjoy the company, or leave her alone, because I doubt you get any type of commitment, other than another date.

[tony71]

Well I won't be seeing her. She is here for spring break and doesn't have a car and her sister won't give her a ride.

[vanheart]

She used religion as an excuse.

Let her get with someone that "believes" the same as her.

Then she can screw with him.

Sorry, man. Its your fault too.

Now you can recognize the kind of person not to get with.

How about you? Work on yourself. Go NC. Discover what's REALLY important to you.

You will be grateful for this.

[pureorganic]

You know, there's a common thing that I find in reading these different forums on this site about those that are going through a break up, or who have been dumped or left by the ones they love. There are two types you find on here...

1. The people who are very strong in NC
2. The people who are NOT strong enough to do NC

Its amazing what change you see take place in those that are are trully strong in NC and trully wise and smart enough to do so. How they re-invent themselves and redevelop lost talents and attributes, and take the trial and make it a strength. In the end the grow to learn what they want in a relationship and to make it healthy. When I see storys such as that, it really makes me happy and makes my heart sing for the strength they reveal.

Then we have examples such as this, where you see a post from a YEAR back from the same heart broken, falsed hope person in the same position! It trully pulls at my heart and emotions knowing what time was wasted and how much further along this person would have been if they remained strong to themselves and remained NC from the beginning. Now a year down the road there is still false hopes and you are only farther behind then you were a year ago because everyday you don't do NC is everyday that your heart and emotions are rooted deeper and deeper in a unhealthy, plagued relationship.

Please people, NC is the only way to heal after a relationship is dead and there is no hope for revival. Or if a loved one has left you, blind sided with no answers, vulnerable and alone. There is no hope in watering a dead plant that has been battered and abused by the summer sun, and there is no hope in saving a relationship that is dead and with no hope of survivial.

Be strong, be active, be wise... that's all I can offer.
Peace Out
-Pure Organic