[Green Elephant]

Hello all,

To the point, I have a very difficult time with patience. Since I started school, I've been working on anxiety, and worry, and I'm happy to say that I feel I've almost tackled those two all together, but one thing I realize, is when a date is set for something that I'm looking forward too, I have to keep telling myself over and over again to be patient, and don't let anxious feelings build up.

If anyone here has suggestions on how they've conquered anticipating the future, and overall learning patience, I would much appreciate it.

Thank you very much.

[KBC]

Patience is a virtue.

Anticipation is a highlight of life, learn to enjoy it,but not be obsessive about it.

Looking forward to any particular happening can have it's drawbacks,I suppose, but when they occur,they are either what you anticipated or fall short.

"Acceptance is the key", those words were drilled into me by my sponsor,Accepting the things we cannot change,accepting the things as they are, or making a change to make it so things are acceptable.

Maybe what you are thinking so much about might shed some additional light on this.

[redhed35]

Making a plan for closer to the event will help..

For example: a wedding in may.. you know your going,so on the calendar mark a day for shopping for an outfit,another for a gift,finding out the time and venue...

Marking in a calender,appoinments,grocery shopping etc,will help ease the impatience and worry as you are busy with what is happening today, dealing with that first... do not overload your schedule (very important) or over commit yourself.. pacing yourself and planning giving yourself ample time to achieve your goals.

My patience bone grew from enforced confinment in hospitals,I learned there was only so much I had control over and that worrying about something that may or may not happen was a useless waste of time and energy.

I wasted hours and days worrying over something negative that may never happen,I changed my thinking and concentrated on the best case scenario,using positive thinking and visualising the positive outcome I desired.

I also realised things will happen at there own pace,weather I worried or not.

[KBC]

my patience bone grew from enforced confinement in hospitals,i learned there was only so much i had control over and that worrying about something that may or may not happen was a useless waste of time and energy.

Man-o-man can I relate to that, hospital times with little to nothing to do, 'cept sleep,eat and THINK!

[Green Elephant]

Thank you both very much. I placed a couple dates before the event like you suggested, and it feels a lot better. I hardest part is knowing that everything I'm anxious about is in my head, and is not a physical force. So thank you for the suggestions.