[valkman98]

The hurt will fade and will fade quicker if you are able to move on. Its hard, but as you have already found, its easier with time. I know you still run in the same circles as her and seeing her from time to time but just let her be and be nice but don't talk. Your head and heart will thank you later.

[newborn24]

Oh no it seems like after so long, I am still back at here.
The month of February saw us quarreling on msn as it is evident that she is actually still upset about me causing her to become what she is today (from straight to bi/les).

I have since been trying to give up on the hope of us ever getting back together but there is still this nagging feeling that I can't get rid of and it is terrible. Throughout this whole ordeal right from the start, I felt guilty and despite me forgiving myself and her, I still can't get rid of the ache in my heart.

Her sister has suspicions about her and has asked me to woo her back but I told her its impossible.I have no problems at all with things from day to day but she still affects my life and mood and I think I have trouble accepting the situation that she is in now. Here I am feeling affected while she is still having the time of her life. Can anyone offer me any help to get over this? Its so difficult, maybe because she's my first love. I don't want to have any regrets left from these.

[amicon]

So long as you keep having arguments,and listening to her thoughts and 'accept' her blaming you for all sorts of things,and so long as you have conversations with her sister,you are going to stay halfstuck in the confusion.

No contact with the ex-minimum contact with people who can't stop interfering in your life will end the confusion,so you can move on for real and heal properly.

[talaniman]

For some reason you keep thinking its okay to keep contacting her or her sister. Its not, it only makes you miserable.

Either do NC properly, or keep being miserable. Its really that simple.

[newborn24]

Hi guys, I am back again. Hope everyone is doing fine. Just thought of providing an update after a few months.

During the last few months, I have graduated from my university, gotten myself a professional degree and a job with good income. Many things has happened, including the passing of a good friend. It made me realized about the many important things in life.

Well, so have I truly moved on from this past relationship, after 8 months or so. I am not sure of myself too. I still meet up with my ex occasionally, despite the many warnings and advice given by others. I treat her as a good friend and I thought I still love her. However, it feels different now compared to the start. I do not know how to describe the feelings but maybe I am still holding on to the very last hope of reconciling with her.

Not that I didn't move on. I went for group dates, have an active and vibrant lifestyle and enjoy many hobbies and interests. Life is generally good and my future is bright. I feel really happy with the way I lead my life. However, at the end of the day, I still think about her sometimes. Every time when I see her being happy, I will feel happy for her too. Sometimes her happiness is what that matters to me. Am I stupid to behave and react in this way? Perhaps but who is to judge what is right and wrong.

I am sure I will meet many more girls along the way but she will always has a special place in my heart. Maybe my last act of love for her will be to completely let her go but it is really hard to follow through.

I am not a weak man either, but sometimes I feel just really tired thinking over this matter, as I have also encountered numerous disappointments. It seems that the only solution lies in me - me willing to give her up completely ?