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    vanheart Posts: 2,806, Reputation: 708
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    #121

    Feb 22, 2010, 06:34 PM

    Exactly.

    What's best for us, not them.

    What's best for them isn't us.
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    #122

    Mar 1, 2010, 09:23 AM

    Well - its finally come to an end. He moved out today while I was at work. I had his stuff ready for him. One of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
    He thanked me for leaving the keys etc. by email and so now that is it.
    I thought when I got home I would be OK... but this is really tough. I knew it was happening but now it is so real. All the work I have done over the past month - back to square 1.

    I guess I need to go back into NC after emailed with him back and forth about him moving out right? Only thing I am happy about is that I didn't ask him to meet up, to talk or said anything about us. I just agreed and tried to make things as amicable as I could.
    Dang - this is tough.
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    #123

    Mar 1, 2010, 09:40 AM

    Hope.
    You did well-and as for back to square one-I don't think so,now you can allow yourself to accept that its over.

    That is a big step forward towards healing.

    Back to NC and take good care of yourself.
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    #124

    Mar 1, 2010, 09:56 AM

    The last reminisce are now gone, so this is actually a form of closure. Now that he's taken away his belongs, it decreases the false hope.

    So in a manner of speaking, you haven't reset all your progress, it's just a bump on the road to recovery.

    Just keep moving forward with your life. If you need, block his email, so that his emails don't get through. There should be a feature for that in your account.
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    #125

    Mar 2, 2010, 05:28 PM

    Hope, I know that this was a pending thing that was causing you grief.

    You handled it perfectly. And yes, continue with NC.

    A huge step in the healing process and you should be proud, although I bet it doesn't feel that way right now.

    This proves how much strength you have and will in the future.

    When I was really struggling, lots of people patted me on the back & I couldn't really see it, but I certainly do now.

    Keep realizing your importance in this life and know that this is a lesson for you. To become better and show the worthy people out there out cool, adjusted and aware you are.

    Cheers,
    Van
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    #126

    Mar 2, 2010, 09:29 PM

    You should change the title of this thread because you have proven you are strong enough to do NC!

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