[lorraine856]

Hello. I am new to this forum but have been searching the web for answers for a while so thougt I would take a chance and ask fr some advice about my situation.
I a 46 my boyfriend of 3 years is 53. He is weathy, handsome and we were have known each other for 6 years in total. We were friends first.

I suspect he is seeing someone else alhough he denies it. I have noticed him pulling away for the last few months although we have been going out and sleeping together as usual. During these these times thngs seem like they're back to normal but sometimes he only wants to sleep with me and not be intimate (which hasn't been normal during the rest of the relationship).

Two weeks ago I had some professional photo's take of me by a photographer friend (a girl) and I showed them to my boyfriend. He told me I was beautiful and that he wanted one of the photographs as a screen saver and one to put in a frame above his bed.

We have a trip to Ireland planned for next weekend with some friends and we are planning a holiday to Israel this year.

My problem is I haven't heard fom him now for 9 days and I have deliberately not called him as I am curious to see how long he would leave it before he got in touch. I am very confused as to what to do next.

I didn't hear from him over the weekend. Why would he stlll be making plans with me and then not talking to me?

Any in sights you can give me woul b welcome as I am not sleeping well or eating properly now and my work is suffering.

Many thanks for reading my post

[amicon]

If you seriously think something is not right,you should talk to him about it and ask him to be honest with you.

Using no contact to try and provoke a call and a reaction from him is playing mindgames and puts you in a position where you spend time and energy waiting for a call that might or might not happen.

[lorraine856]

Hi and thank you for your quick response. You know... you are right and I feel like I'm playing games. I suppose I'm just clutching at straws as I have asked him and he has denied that he's seeing anyone else or that anything is wrong.

It's been 8 days since we had any contact and that's the longest it's ever been. I do love him and he is the only man I have ever really loved if I'm honest.

Thank you for your advice. I'm going to go and call him. Say Hi and see how it goes from there.
Bless you.
L

[amicon]

You're very welcome.
You've made a good decision and I hope you come back and tell us how things go.

Take care and good luck.

[Romefalls19]

Just call him and talk to him and see what is going on. No sense in playing games, you're too mature for that

[lorraine856]

Hi again, Thank you to both of you that replied. I did make that call yesterday and he was busy but told me he would call me back later and he did. We have planned to meet on Friday night so I hope we can get back on track.

May thanks for your advice and comments. I appreciated the kick up the backside.
Lorraine

[amicon]

Hi again.
I hope it works out well for you.
Come back when you feel like it!
Take care.