[laury-lou]

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I'm very confused and I don't no what to do, I have been going out with this guy for a year and 3 months, and he was my first and I love him, but however I also love this other guy, which also loves me, he has waited for me and have liked me for nearly 2 years :/ and I have to chose which one and I really don't no what to do

[laury-lou]

I'm very confused, I have got a boyfriend which I have been with for a year and 3 months, and he was my first, I do love him but I'm just not sure, as I also like this other guy that has liked me for nearl 2 years, and he has waited for me and hasn't got with any other girl.
Me and my boyfriend always argue because I don't no what to do so I take it out on others and I'm fed up of being confused and taking it out on others, so I need some advise on what to do and who to chose?

[Sdawson90]

Yourself, that's the only right answer.

Do what makes you happy, and if you see that you are more unhappy, than happy in a relationship, and you are unwilling to work through the problems you have, then it isn't something you need to have anymore.

Do what makes you happy, and you won't have any regrets.

[JoeCanada76]

First of all it sounds to me that your not mature enough emotionally to be in any kind of relationship. Not at this time.

It is not a matter of being confused or whatever else you reason. It is about you always had somebody thinking for you in your life and you were probably never allowed to make your own mistakes in life and always expected or had somebody make every decision in your life for you.

Here is the cure, start thinking for yourself. Do not let somebody direct your life for you or make decisions for any life decisions. Your old enough to make them for yourself.

No one can make any decision for you although I suggest you not be in a relationship at all until you mature more emotionally and figure out why you are always in the need of somebody else to make the decision for you because your afraid of making the wrong choice.

The thing is, is that we all learn from our mistakes so I suggest you chose what is best for you and whether it works out or not, you learn from it.

So get control over your life, your decisions and your emotions. Make the decision that is best for you and live with yourself no matter what may or may not happen.

Best wishes and luck with your life.

Joe

[Scleros]

I think if your decision process in selecting a mate involves this much indecisiveness and uncertainty, neither guy is the correct one for you.

[jaime90]

You cannot love two people at the same time... it is IMPOSSIBLE. You may have "romantic feelings for them both" but this is HARDLY love. My advice: you choose neither, spend some time being single, and get your head on straight when it comes to how you treat guys and relationships.

[I wish]

Why do you need to choose? You don't need to choose. You don't need a boyfriend just for the sake of having one.

What you should do is stay single and sort out your own life before dragging someone else into your life.