[Chriatian]

Okay, so I know this entire board is flooded with situations like these, but I literally have no one. She was my only friend, for three years, we abstained from everyone else. We thought all we needed was each other, she was all I needed. She left me. Three years, and she left me through a letter she left in my mailbox. Her and I grew up together. All of our formative years were spent together. We didn't fight. I thought everything was okay, I've been depressed since I finished school, but she said I changed, and her feelings changed. I suspected there was someone else for a long time, and now I'm fairly certain it was true. I just don't know what to do. I tried doing the things on here. I feel so lost. The fact that we grew up together makes it so much harder. I just want to feel normal again..

[dynocompe]

WEll since you two secluded each other from other people. I highly suggest you join some groups, be it volunteering, sports, crafts, anything so you can meet some people. You need friends, a person has got to socialize with other people, it really can help there self esteem and be a lot happier. It will also keep you busy and get your mind off the negative.
I sure hope you get out there and meet some people!

[I wish]

It sounds like her feelings changed. It happens. It wasn't anything that you did in particular. Had you done something specific and if she still cared about you, she would have tried to work on the relationship with you.

What you do is pick yourself up. Don't feel bad. Treat this as a learning experience. Easier said that done, but still very possible. It's a good opportunity to make new friends and to find yourself again.

It's a fresh start and a new beginning.

Try reading the stickies in the relationship section as a start.

[Devorameira]

Time will make things easier, try and do whatever it takes to keep her off your mind. It’s over, so don’t spend your time wishing, hoping, or waiting around for her. You need to start living your life and doing things that make you happy.

Break ups are hard, especially when you've been with someone for so long, but lets face it, this isn’t going to be easy on you for the next couple weeks, even months, but eventually you'll get over her and it will make you a stronger person.

Don't contact her - Try not to focus so much on what went wrong, because there isn’t a point - you can’t go back, but rather start thinking about what's next. Good things come to those who wait. Be positive and keep your head high (women are more attracted to guys who seem to know what there doing rather then men who seem weak.) Good luck!

[talaniman]

It will be hard but give yourself plenty of time to mourn, and then heal from the death of this relationship.

The best thing to do now is focus on building a life that you enjoy, through new friends, and activities, that make you happy.

That takes time, and hard work, but well worth the effort. If you don't know how, its time to learn just by doing.

[vanheart]

Once you realize its over.

Then you can move on & be happy again.

It's a shock, a devastating one at first. But how you recoil is key.

Keep asking how.

For now, do healthy things for yourself. Even if you have to force yourself to do it. Hang with supportive friends or family.