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    marykatefool1 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 20, 2010, 04:39 PM
    My boyfriend doesn't trust me and is controlling
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now. Our relationship started a little rocky. We both have been unfaithful in the past and decided to put the past behind us and start over. For about 3 months we were going strong but his insecurities came back. I'm with him everyday when we're both not at school and talk to him on the phone every night. He even likes to check my phone to make sure I'm not texting or calling any other guys. He says he doesn't trust me enough to even hangout with my friends and I always have to call and make sure things are okay with him before I do it. Its almost as if he's another parent. I love him a lot and he makes it clear he loves me too but I can't take the accusations and threats to end things anymore. And I feel ending things is the only option since he can't seem to trust me, but I almost feel as if its breaking his heart more than mine and I hate to see him upset. What should I do ? Please help :(
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    Feb 20, 2010, 05:37 PM

    You were both unfaithful, that relationship is long overdue to end.

    You can't really blame him for not trusting you if you cheated on him too by the way...

    Anyway, I'd just advise you to end it, because there is just no chance in hell you guys are going to trust each other.
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    Feb 20, 2010, 05:38 PM

    He’s a control freak. You deal with a control freak by kissing him and saying goodbye. Really, that is the best advice unless you like being controlled and told everything to do concerning the relationship and yourself.

    Control is a nice word for abuse because your freedom of expression is being abused. Whenever you can’t do as you please without getting your boyfriend's permission by allowing him to tell you what to do; you are setting the stage for control or abuse. Control and abuse are not a good part of any relationship.

    Just tell him that you need your freedom and walk away. If this guy is controlling you during the dating stage, imagine how miserable you could be if you married him. Stop the madness and end the relationship NOW,
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    Feb 20, 2010, 05:46 PM
    This is a doomed relationship and ending it is the only way to improve it. How old are you any way, when you have to stay in a relationship where he is master and you are slave?

    You never stay with someone who tells you to your face he can't trust you, and threatens to leave. Let him leave, and learn your lesson about cheating. He has yet to learn his.

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