[akshat1979]

Myself 30 years old, wife is 28 yrs. Old and we have made marriage before 6 years. Now my wife have no interest in sex from last 1 year, when I have mood for sex and discuss to her about this, she told me about tiredness and sleepness and try to avoid sex as possible and when I say to her about sex more and more times, she have ready with no mood. I think about extramarital relation due to my wife behaviour but I don't want to do this. What should I do??

[CravenMorhead]

Weariness and stress are two major libido killers. Have you sat down and talked to her about this? Don't beg for sex, but have a honest discussion about this issue. Don't be angry, bitter, or vindictive. Explain to her what you're feeling and see how that goes.

Has there been any major changes in your life? For example, new baby, or a lost job. Has your wife experienced any changes? I am wondering if there is a stresser that has caused this lack of sex.

Don't have an affair. You have made vows that you won't have sex with anyone else.

If you can find one, you might want to find a sex counsellor. They might be able to get that spark back.

[smoothy]

Tiredness... sleepiness.. and no libido all together is making me think she might be suffering depression. Has anything happened during that time about a year ago that may have caused this... death in family... new child?

[Alty]

Women aren't wired the same as men. A man just has to think about sex and want it, a woman thinks about everything, her mood, all the work she has to do the next day, the kids, the bills, meals, you name it.

If a woman is run down, tired, sad, then sex is the furthest thing from her mind and a woman decides with her mind when it comes to sex.

Talk to her, ask her what's going on, ask her what you can do to help. Maybe take some of the load off her, make dinner once in a while, clean the house, do some laundry, that's how you'll get back into the bedroom, not by nagging for sex or having an affair.

[jmjoseph]

Women aren't wired the same as men. A man just has to think about sex and want it, a woman thinks about everything, her mood, all the work she has to do the next day, the kids, the bills, meals, you name it.

If a woman is run down, tired, sad, then sex is the furthest thing from her mind and a woman decides with her mind when it comes to sex.

Talk to her, ask her what's going on, ask her what you can do to help. Maybe take some of the load off her, make dinner once in a while, clean the house, do some laundry, that's how you'll get back into the bedroom, not by nagging for sex or having an affair.

You are right Alty, men and women are wired differently for sure. I think it was Billy Crystal who said " Women need a REASON to have sex, men just need a PLACE."

A cardboard box would do just fine for most of us guys.

[shazamataz]

I'm interested to know if she is on any birth control?
And if so what type and how long has she been taking it for?