[scullions1234]

A man with normal urges ,with awoman that has none

[tickle]

a man with normal urges ,with awoman that has none

That situation would certainly put stress on the marriage. She may be celibate, but there are still ways for her to show you that she cares.

Is this a situation the two of you are considering and are discussing before making a decision ?

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[450donn]

Basically this is a situation the can only end badly. Marriage is difficult at best, when you throw into the mix a difference in sexual urges it is a recipe for disaster. It can be done, but sooner or later one will feel that giving up sex for the sake of the marriage is simply not worth the effort any linger. Then it will be an affair, or some other means of gratification.

[Jake2008]

There are a lot of options here. I wouldn't be quick to dump her considering her total lack of a sex drive is not normal. It may not be something she has control over, due to many things such as hormones (menopause), stressors such as work, kids, paying bills, etc. Many factors contribute to a woman not wanting sex- at all. You being in the mood, does not translate into a good sex life, if there are problems she is having.

It would be a good idea to examine more than your urges here. Consider calmly talking to her about seeing her Doctor for a thourough checkup. The Doctor needs to be informed that she has no sex drive.

What have you done to rectify the situation, and how long has it gone on.

I presume that you help out around the house, take her out for dinner once in a while, manage the kids, take out the vacuum, etc.

Are there any other complications with her that you are aware of such as a recent death in her family, or illness.

Please be more thourough in both your assessment, and in what you try to do to figure it out. This is about her in my opinion, not you.

[tickle]

More information from the OP would be good, regarding his situation. Right now we are only assuming. His description was too oblique to give proper advice in this matter.

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[Devorameira]

I agree that it would help greatly if there were more details. I have a few questions though.

Did you ever have an active sex life?

Did she ever appear to enjoy sex?

Does she work and take care of the house, kids, etc?

Has she been sick?

Has she been on medication that could affect her?

And the biggie - are you a considerate lover or a "wham bam thank you mam" man?

[tickle]

I agree that it would help greatly if there were more details. I have a few questions though.

Did you ever have an active sex life?

Did she ever appear to enjoy sex?

Does she work and take care of the house, kids, etc?

Has she been sick?

Has she been on medication that could affect her?

and the biggie - are you a considerate lover or a "wham bam thank you mam" man?

Yes, lots to think about, but OP has not been back to elucidate. I could have pointed out the same things you did, and I am sure Jake could have too.

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