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    Feb 11, 2010, 04:09 PM
    If my husband died, can I date his best friend
    My fiancé and I were together for 8 years. He cheated on several occasions but recently he came home and told me he loved someone else. He was with this women for two months. He still lived with our daughter and I but we were separated. He started to use drugs and just was turning me off. He still provided to the fullest so I never saw the sense in putting him out. The morning he decided to leave his smutt alone, he died in a car accident. During our whole relationship, he spoke highly of his best friend. His best friend was in jail our whole relationship for something he didn't do. I recently met him for the first time after my fiance's death. He is coming home due to the police hiding information related to his case. I would never make the first move, but I really like him. Am I wrong.
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    Feb 11, 2010, 05:36 PM

    HUM, in jail, but of course he did not do it ? Frind of a drug user ,

    Not rating way up on my great date list.
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    Feb 11, 2010, 05:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    HUM, in jail, but of course he did not do it ? Frind of a drug user ,

    not rating way up on my great date list.
    Agreed! Sounds like she needs to aim for a little better quality of a man.
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    Feb 11, 2010, 05:51 PM

    You need to think about your child before you think of anyone. Don't jump into something that may be dangerous to her.. Do you watch the news?
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    Feb 12, 2010, 10:51 AM

    Why are you going for the losers? This guy was in jail, and just got out. Why don't you give him a break and let him straighten his life out first?
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    Feb 12, 2010, 12:17 PM

    You need to be by yourself . Spend time with your child! Make your child your first priority! Don't bring an ex con around your daughter. What is this guy in for? How long has your husband been gone?
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    Feb 13, 2010, 01:58 AM
    I'd be taking some time to think, grieve and recuperate before starting a relationship with anyone. Rebound relationships are the ones most likely to fail because we tend to choose someone similar to our previous partner.

    Why don't you wait, enjoy your life as a single person for a while before leaping into another relationship?

    Now's not the time to be making these sort of decisions.
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    Feb 14, 2010, 11:30 AM
    if my husband died, can i date his best friend

    Sure but ask yourself why you settle for losers first. I would give this a lot of thought before I make a decision, given what you have already gone through. Not just you, but your daughter as well.

    She should come before you chose any other guy to replace her father.
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    Feb 14, 2010, 12:03 PM

    I don't understand why a women who just lost a "husband" would want to jump right in to another relationship. The husband was on drugs and lived with the girlfriend and sometimes with you. So now his wrongly convicted friend is getting out of prison and you want to start a relationship with him.

    Exactly what part of "wait and don't do it"do you not understand. Is having a man in your life more important than your child? How long has your "husband been gone"? Why is the guy in prison?

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