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Quasi89 · Feb 10, 2010, 08:02 PM

Hi there.

I am a 21 year old male and I have a problem.

All my life, I have been attracted to women. I am in love with one amazing girl right now. I love everything about her. However, I just notice that I noticed that some guys are good looking. This has scared me ever since because I don't want to become bi sexual, bi curious or gay. I want to have a relationship with this girl and she means A LOT to me and I honestly don't want to let her go because of this... I have been reading the past threads about a same individual who is 21 male and had the same problem. Can anyone help?

Cat1864 · Feb 10, 2010, 08:16 PM

It does not mean you are bi or gay just because you find males good looking. Sexuality is more than looks. It is feelings and actions.

Finding other men good looking could be a sign that you are comfortable with your sexuality. You know what turns you on and aren't threatened by what doesn't.

I am a straight female, but that doesn't mean that I don't see the beauty in other women.

Jake2008 · Feb 10, 2010, 08:32 PM

Exactly as Cat said. I am a woman, and acknowledge beauty in women, and 'handsomeness' in men. Everybody has characteristics and features that we find attractive, of both sexes. You may be drawn to a certain type of individual because of charisma, or the way they talk, or their confidence, etc. None of that boils down to anything more than what it is.

I think we all miss a lot because we can't look at the beauty in others, without comparing that to ourselves.

Quasi89 · Feb 10, 2010, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by Jake2008

Exactly as Cat said. I am a woman, and acknowledge beauty in women, and 'handsomeness' in men. Everybody has characteristics and features that we find attractive, of both sexes. You may be drawn to a certain type of individual because of charisma, or the way they talk, or their confidence, etc. None of that boils down to anything more than what it is.

I think we all miss a lot because we can't look at the beauty in others, without comparing that to ourselves.

Thank you for your answer,

To be completely honest, That is how I feel for this girl. Not only do I love how she looks, but I love her personality as well.

Im sorry for re emphasizing my fear, but I really don't want this issue to get in my way.

It's really cheezy I know... but, she's something.

Kitkat22 · Feb 10, 2010, 08:39 PM

Women look at other women all the time but not in a sexual way. Maybe we think "Gosh I wish I could wear that color." I think Michelle Phiffer is georgous but I don't think that in a sexual way. I'm as straight as straight can be.

Kitkat22 · Feb 10, 2010, 10:12 PM

Sophia Loren is the ultimate classy , beautiful lady. Now you treat that young lady you are so in love with ,like the gem she is. Good Luck Young Gentleman.

Cyberstar · Feb 12, 2010, 06:34 PM

Try not to read too deeply into it. There are features that both men and women all over the globe find inherently attractive. It's natural to have that sense of awareness.

And don't for a second think that it could negatively impact your current relationship with your lady friend. ;)

Quasi89 · Feb 13, 2010, 11:32 AM

I appreciate everyone's answers in this forum.

It was helpful. I know what I want. I want women with great personalities and I have learned that it is normal to think men are good looking. It is all about emotions and actions.

I am just really happy that I know this girl. Thanks to everyone's help!

Cat1864 · Feb 13, 2010, 11:57 AM

Originally Posted by Quasi89

I appreciate everyone's answers in this forum.

It was helpful. I know what I want. I want women with great personalities and i have learned that it is normal to think men are good looking. It is all about emotions and actions.

I am just really happy that i know this girl. Thanks to everyone's help!

Good luck. :)