[athena254]

Ok this guy I was attracted to as a friend I became attracted to him a little more. He works with me he always stare and try to talk to me. So finally after 3 months I give him my number. He spend all night helping me with my homework. He kiss me on my neck he wanted to cuddle. He told me a loong essay about himself and he ask me about me. I told him, He was like once I earn his trust me and him can take the next step.


So one day I went on his Facebook page from another page. I notice he has a lot of this girl pictures and the girl been writing him a lot. So come to find out that girl is his girlfriend :(

I respect her cause she has a daughter and she really love this guy and his whole Facebook page is about her.

I ask him why he didn't tell me he had a girlfriend he ask what was I talking about. Then he said he didn't know why he didn't tell me I never ask him plus me and him was friends. I understand we wasn't dating. But you was trying to kiss me and been trying to talk to me all this time.

Like if he care for this girl a lot and she care for him a lot why would he stay over another girl house try to kiss on her and stuff. Talk about the future with her if he has a girll? The guy and I live in ga the girlfriend lives in dc... what is the meaning behind this?? I guess he and the girl been dating since nov 2009

[rosemcs]

He is having his fun playing. If you would like to have your heart stay in one piece, now would be a good time to end seeing him as a possible boyfriend.

If he played behind her back, there is a big chance he will do it to you somewhere down the road. I doubt he would have told you he had a girlfriend if you did not notice his Facebook... for then, you would have seen him for what he really is.

[athena254]

Yea.. im like that was so wrong. So does he care about his current girlfriend? Why would he do that to her?

But I see you said he was playing.. thanks for the opinion

[XxUntouchablexX]

Yeah I agree. Some guys just like to play the field. A new conquest is always exciting, so he was just fooling around. If it really bothers you talk to him calmly about it in person, and be friends. It sounds like even if you two can't date, he can be a supportive friend as long as neither of you makes a move.

[athena254]

Yes I wanted to talk to him more about it but some people say don't and say do.

Because I am still depress from my breakup its been 3 months and I am not over it. Then when I found out this guy had a girl it more pain to the pain soooooooooo I don't know anymore

[XxUntouchablexX]

Start with a deep breath, relax, and calm down. Just try not to focus on relationships for awhile. It sounds like you've been thinking a lot about your ex and who your new guy should be. Let your old relationship heal before you take on a new one (even though it's not easy) and let yourself become okay with being alone. It doesn't matter if you talk to him about it or not. If you talk to him more about it he'll probably think you're being clingy and you obviously can't date him. If you sit back and let life happen it's a lot more enjoyable.

You'll find another guy in good time. There's no rush.

[athena254]

Yesss I hear u.. thanks:)

[Jake2008]

It is good you found out about his girlfriend before this developed into a full blown relationship. That would have made things much more difficult.

He has already shown you that he can't be trusted, right off the bat. Also that he lied about somebody who is in his life that he chose to be in a relationship with, and who also has a child. That speaks very poorly of his maturity, and character, that he would pursue you, while involved with someone else.

You can't start a relationship with somebody that is not available. As long as he is involved with somebody else, he is not available.

Trust your instinct here, see things for what they are and recognize that his behaviour speaks volumes.

[athena254]

Yes... I am glad I found out earlier but it hurts but it could have been worse. That's crazy he would do this and thanks Jake

[talaniman]

You are still getting over your last break up, so any disappointment must really feel awful. Cheer up, at least you looked, before you leaped this time.

I wish you would forget about trying to have love in your life, and just concentrate on your life. That will help with the depression as you build a life that you enjoy, with friends, and activities that make you happy, so you can start to really love yourself, and have something good to share with the right person.

Its never a good idea to date a guy at work any way, as you still have to see him, and wonder what was he up to, so outside of work is where you start your new life, for you, and your child.

Trust me, do this the right way, and don't depend on shysters, and players, to make you happy. Thats your job, but heal your heart first, and fill the hole in your soul, with good things about you.

[athena254]

Yea I need to focus on me. I have learn no more dating or tryna heal broken hearts they heal on they own :)

[jaime90]

It's no secret... Clearly this guy doesn't care about his current girlfriend... He's probably cheating on her anyway.

[talaniman]

Your expectations are so high for a relationship. Have some good times with your freedom for a while.

[athena254]

@Jaime & talaniman... yes he may be cheating on her lol. He live in atlanta and she is in dc. They started dating last year sooooooooooo I don't know

My yes talaniman I am going to have good times with my freedome because I need to heal. I an tired of being depress from this situation

[talaniman]

That's the spirit! :) :D :):):):)

[dynocompe]

I hate cheaters! I would really have to restrain myself from messagin his current girlfriend. She deserves better!

[athena254]

Yea. I know I hate cheaters too. But see telling the girlfriend is not my place. But it will come back to him so he better slow his roll