[Momi1977]

I have been seeing a guy for about 4 months All seemed OK, then suddenly - out of nowhere- he starts ignoring my text/calls/emails. We didn't get into a fight or anything, and the last time we saw each other we had fun. What makes a guy just cut off contact with you out of the blue?
Even his friend (who dates my best friend) says he doesn't know what's going on. Its been over two weeks since I heard from him, and Im very sad/upset over this whole situation. I really liked him a lot, and we spent a lot of time together.

[Jake2008]

If he had the courage to face you and tell you, it would have been easier than sitting around waiting and wondering what's going on.

I would send one more email, and tell him exactly what you have said here. Tell him you'll give him 24 hours to respond, and if you don't hear from him, you will assume the relationship is over.

What he's done is very rude and unnecessary.

[Devorameira]

Jake2008 is right. I think you have a coward on your hands. I think he's changed his mind about the relationship, but doesn't' have the guts to tell you.

I'd just move on and find someone who cares.

[amicon]

I agree he comes across as a coward and rude with it.
I would consider it over and move on.

[JBeaucaire]

What scares me is if you convince him to "snap out of it" and you two resume... things progress even further and then he does this again.

Worst of all will be that there is already a wedding ring on your finger the next time he goes down this path.

The point of dating to hang around with someone long enough for their REAL personality to appear, usually 6-12 months. This guy seems to have come in early.

So pay attention. The guy you're starting to see NOW is much more like the guy he really is than anything you've experienced with him before. I hope you realize what this means.

Think long and hard before you press this any further. He may be doing you a massive favor by letting you get away without further damage.

[talaniman]

His action speak louder than his words. For whatever reason he has disappeared from your life, be grateful, and disappear from his.

He obviously didn't value the time as much as you did, and no way should you let him back into your space.

Have no more to do with him for any reason, not even an explanation, or to beg for one.

[HistorianChick]

Stinks, doesn't it! I've had this happen to me, as well.

In my situation, I really liked the guy, but if he was going to be that petty and immature, then I wouldn't allow him to get into my head. Granted, this guy was a player, but still. I stopped contacting him. He never explained what happened and I guess I was too proud to ask him why he stopped contacting me. He took the coward's way out; I think we had gotten too close too fast and he got scared.

The way I did it probably isn't the best way to handle it, but I knew that I was worth it and honestly? If he wanted to disappear, disappear. I wanted to be "worth it" to him!

Maybe you should just ask him what's up. He could be feeling that you guys are too right and he's not ready for it...

Don't know if I was just as immature to not chase him back, but I'm actually better off. He wanted an ego boost, I wasn't about to give it to him!

(It's Monday, sorry! My answers are tinged with not-long-enough-weekend-itis! :) :) )

[CFZD]

OP,
It happened to me as well, no where out of blue. I moved on real quick, b.c. that was the rational thing to do!
Don't repeat why he did this? What goes wrong? Anything wrong with me? Is he still interested?

HE IS OUT! YOU Shouldn't THINK OF HIM ANY MORE!

Good luck :)

[jaime90]

Why don't you ask him what happened? Sit down and COMMUNICATE.

[Momi1977]

Why don't you ask him what happened? Sit down and COMMUNICATE.

Ive tried contacting him... text, calls, and an email... no reply.

Its sad, but I believe you guys are right... hes a coward :(
I just wish there was a way to snap my fingers and make the hurt go away... I need to stop crying over him, because no man is worth my tears (If I repeat that enough times, Im thinking I may start believing it LOL)

Thanks for all of your help, sometimes you need to hear the opinions of other people outside your "circle". Thank you for taking the time out of your days to respond...
God Bless

[HistorianChick]

No problem, Momi. It helps when people have been where you are and know what it feels like.

I watched The Holiday over and over again. :) Drank a lot of coffee. Ate a lot of chocolate. And decided that I was worth more than wallowing in self-pity. I'm a catch! And, he lost the best thing he ever had.

You'll get there. Believe me. :)

[bluerozies]

I am going through something slightly similar. This guy and I were texting back and forth frequently or a while. We hang out a couple of times and had fun. Out of the blue he started acting weird. He stopped texting me and calling. Even when he did reply to my text messages there was something quite different about his replies. They were less "friendly" than they were in the past. So I just saw him today, he passed right next to me and didn't say hi. Later on today I saw him and I passed right next to him and I ignored his ***. I suggest you do the same. Ignore the little boy. You need a grown *** man

[dessybe]

He is a class A Prick, simple answer.

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This post is from Feb. 2010.