[kdaykens87]

Hi thank you for reading,
Here goes, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs ish, but just before christmas we had a big bust up, he thought I was trying to get with his best friend, even though I was trying to sort a surpise out for his big birthday with his friend. We broke up but then decided if we could just have a break and see how we felt and some space, well we got back together in the new year, and was great,
But now. He hardly texts me or rings me, I go without seeing him for weeks at a time, he is trying to get himself tgether with a job, and to get to see his son more, I tried to make contact but hardly hear anything back, I'm confussed as I thought the issues where cleared up and I know if would take time to get back on track, but its hurting me going weeks without contact never mind not seeing each other, I have told him I'm hurting and don't understand wots happening, the contact has just broken down.
I know he's been hurt before in past but how can I prove I'm not going to cheat or lie to him /?
Do I just give up on it? Or do I keep trying,? I want to be part of his life but I feel I'm being taken for a ride...

[redhed35]

You need to make an appointment with him to talk..

And yes,I said appoinment,if he does not have time for a relationship,he should not be in one.

Actions speak louder then words,that's how he knows he can trust you,if he has issues with trust,that's his problem not yours.

I suggest you ask him is he in this relationship or not,because his actions say he wants out.

[kdaykens87]

I do feel like being taken for a fool, and should get out, but think what if he doesn't realise how I feel... I know exactly what I want I'm just fed up of spending so much time worrying

[amicon]

Actions do speak louder than words,so find out what his actions mean.
As Redhed suggests,get in touch and tell him its time for a serious conversation.

[redhed35]

i do feel like being taken for a fool, and should get out, but think wot if he doesnt realise how i feel ......... i know exactly wot i want im just fed up of spending so much time worrying

Then take action.

Find out where you stand,if your both willing to work on it fair enough,if he humms and haws,walk away,at least you won't be wasting any more time and can recover.

[kdaykens87]

But this annoys hell out of me that when I get in contact he either doesn't text or email back, or takes a day or so so how can I talk to him, I'm not going to do anything rash without seeing him face to face but its hard not to

[redhed35]

He's ignoring you,he does not want to spend time with you,why are you putting up with this behaviour?

Your post screams this guy wants out.

[kdaykens87]

But thing is he would tell me I'm sure, unless he wants to play games?

[redhed35]

but thing is he wud tell me im sure unless he wnts t play games?

If he loved you he would want to spend time with you or at least have the decency to reply to your calls.

But he won't even do that for you...

My advice stands, talk to him and find out what's going on,but don't wait two months to get that conversation.

[talaniman]

If he is so unwilling to talk and be unavailable for his romantic partner, maybe things weren't as solved as you thought.

Its up to you whether you should be worried, or continue to put up with his bad behavior. And it is bad wouldn't you agree?

[kdaykens87]

Just going to be frustrating till he gets back to me, I not be waiting round, just frightend ill get angrey with him, he is taking me for a fool either he steps up or neva sees me again, couldn't be friends if we did spilt so it is make or break

[kdaykens87]

Well he still hasn't been in contact so doesn't that suggest the 3 yr relationship is over and he doesn't want to work it out, would have expected this sort of thing if both teenagers just selfish this is

[talaniman]

I go without seeing him for weeks at a time, he is trying to get himself tgether with a job, and to get to see his son more,

There really is no excuse for this behavior. I doubt you had the relationship you thought you had!

[kdaykens87]

Being trated like I'm not even human, cnt believe way he has been