[Romefalls19]

Ex's are ex's for a reason. It didn't work, why try to revisit it? Yes, things can be worked out but rarely does it work out. I'd rather start on a clean slate rather than worry about the past problems coming back to life

[talaniman]

I say you leave her alone just because she being your first, you are to emotionally invested to see things clearly, or objectively. I also think because of your own feelings you think hers are the same, and I can tell you, they are not.

[emopunk7]

Here's my take on this. You first came here stating that you can't get over her past. Now you two broke up and again you have a problem with her past (her kissing someone) This alone shows how history repeats itself time and time again. Take that alone as an example of how your relationship will be no different. Find someone else but work on yourself before finding. Takes big ones to go that route. Let's see what you're made of.

[Llisa]

Hi Anonymous91,

I don't know if you're still reading this post, if you are I hope this helps. I think you may face a lot of problems if you want to have a relationship with this girl. You both seem to bring your own set of issues to the table.

Her with her issue of seeking attention through sexual attraction, in pretty inappropriate ways. I think a lot of girls with self esteem issues have gone through this stage (for instance how many girls flash their boobs). Then there are those that go through most of their lives acting this way before realising that this doesn't really bring them happiness or acceptance. She seems to still be firmly planted in this stage by seeking approval through sex. To have a healthy relationship with this girl, I think you need to wait till she has solved some of her own problems.

The issues I think you bring into the mix are ones of insecurity and not having identified what you want from yourself, your life and your relationship. I know that sounds a bit full on but to have a meaningful, happy relationship, you need to know what you want and do not want. And you also need to be secure enough in yourself to say that you deserve what will make you happy in a relationship and not take anything less.