[loubanez]

OK I wrote all this out once an then accidentally deleted it, so it wu be really nice to get some comments, ill try and keep this a short as I possibly can and try not to ramble on.
Ok well I had I relationship with this girl for about 2 an a half years, we were really in love, and I still love her now, we were both 17 when we started going out now we are 20. Towards the last few months of our relationship things went downhill, we started to see each other less and we started to argue more and more. About 4 months ago she broke up with me, she said it was because I didn't make her feel as wanted as I used to and as good about herself as I used to, an that we had different friends an different lives. Initially I took the break up well, went out with friends and I had fun. I then had my first date about 2 months later, were which my ex happened to be at the same pub, very awkard, after the date finished my ex rung me up and asked me to stay the night, I shouldn't of but gave in, I really missed her, after that night we started seeing each other on and off but I didn't really know were things were going, To my upset she then told me that she had slept with another guy since our split, this crushed me an just made me want her more, I hated the thought of her with other guys, I told her straight I wanted to get back with her, she said all she could offer me was her promise that she wouldn't see anyone else but would not get back into a relationship with me, to me this made no sense atall, an I said it would never work, I didn't see her for a fortnight after that, then I got a call from her saying she missed me, again I gave in to weakness and she came round, that night she told me she had slept with another guy, she said she hated the guy because he said he liked her just to get into her pants, again I was crushed an she offered me the same option, a proimise not to see or sleep with other guys, reluctantly I excepted, and I made the same promise back to her, I love this girl so much, after a couple of weeks of things going well I started to get doubts that I was being played like a puppet, so I didn't contact her, 3 days went by an she didn't call me or I her.
Then that night I saw her at a pub an I saw her flirting and kissing another guy, she then made eye contact with me an chased after me , she burst in2 tears an then even had the cheek to blame me for not contacting her as the reason for doing what she did because she felt rejected by me, after a heated argument she then left with 2 guys one was the guy from the bar.
She rung me yesterday and apolgized, and I am seeing her tonight to talk,
I love this girl so much but I am getting seriously hurt carrying on this game, an my head is so messed up, what does this girl want, I believe she still loves me, an I don't know if she just does stupid things when she's feels rejected by me, but then she's the one rejecting me, she was always faithful when we went out, but I don't know if I can trust her anymore, any comments much appreciated. Thanks

[amicon]

She's using you as a backup plan and a possible on/off friend with benefits.

Time to let this go.
Time to go no contact and end the confusion.

[kdaykens87]

Trust can always be brought bak into a relationship, it does take time, if its what you both want, then both should agree to make it prioitie to get things back on track together, you both ave t b on the same page so to speak or its going to put a lot of distance between u 2, don't refer to how it was before this is a chance for a new start go on dates don't rush and just enjoy every second

[CarrotTalker]

to me this made no sense atall, an i said it would never work

It sounds like you know exactly what's going on and that you should stay away from this situation. She definitely has a lot of issues to work through and you should not be her punching bag.

Just keep repeating what you said to yourself and eventually you will keep up with staying away!

[talaniman]

You have all the facts staring you in the face and continue the games in the name of love. But whose love is it? She ran after you when you decided to date another. That's not love its jealousy, and some selfish, possessive, and manipulative behavior.

Then she refuses to commit to you again, that's not love either, its more manipulation, that frankly you should have run from. You didn't. You continued the game.

Bottom line fella, you want the games to stop? Stop playing them with her. That simple. The most useful tool to accomplish that goal, disappear from her life and stop all contact with her.

The keyword is ALL CONTACT WITH HER!!