What now

nikosmom · Feb 6, 2010, 06:46 PM

I would not.

Is there a reason you are considering this? (ie, do you have children together?)

Fr_Chuck · Feb 6, 2010, 06:47 PM

A ex is a ex, not a current girl friend, so no reason for anything

valkman98 · Feb 6, 2010, 10:42 PM

Send them to YOU.She doesn't want them,come on guy, do for you for achange and put YOU #1,you will feel better.

amicon · Feb 6, 2010, 11:31 PM

Azif,I don't think you know better than to send your ex flowers.
How are you feeling now?

azif · Feb 7, 2010, 12:20 AM

@mods
It was a general question - did it really need to get merged?

Azif,I don't think you know better than to send your ex flowers.

Do you mean - "know better than to send"

I'm fair to middling. But then again maybe I always was. Thanks for asking :P

Send them to YOU.She doesn't want them,come on guy, do for you for achange and put YOU #1,you will feel better.

I put myself first often enough

Is it really that bad sending flowers? I still like her or maybe lover her? Or just miss her?

amicon · Feb 7, 2010, 12:36 AM

What would you achieve by sending them?
Are you still hoping she'll come back?
And what if you were to send flowers and get a zero reaction,how would that make you feel?

azif · Feb 7, 2010, 12:46 AM

Not sure to all of the above

I wouldn't be expecting that just the flowers would get her back

Maybe its part guilt from not gettering her flowers as much as I could have/should have

I guess I don't really have a clue what I want emotionally right now, and don't have the time to work it out
So I'm just concentrating on physical/financial aspects

amicon · Feb 7, 2010, 12:57 AM

I think we all may regret things we did,or didn't do-but the past is the past.
Living in the here and now always seems like a good option to me.
And,excuse the cliché.a breakup is a learning experience.

azif · Feb 7, 2010, 01:00 AM

A pity it isn't an enjoyable experience too

amicon · Feb 7, 2010, 01:19 AM

No,mostly it sucks!
But once we have got past it I think we find that we have learned a lot-about ourselves and also about what we don't want and need in our lives.

azif · Feb 14, 2010, 03:22 AM

Good call guys. Don't think she has feelings for me at all. Would have been sending them for the wrong reasons.

azif · Apr 22, 2010, 10:09 PM

Thought I was Feeling over her but now I'm not so sure. Had been getting pretty close to a friend and now think I've got a bit too close.
Not sure if I'm ready to go through it all over again. Makes me miss having that connection with someone else though and so now I'm just as confused

amicon · Apr 22, 2010, 10:33 PM

I think that whenever we have doubts,its time to step back and rethink the situation.

And if you aren't sure you are over the ex,you probably aren't quite there yet.

azif · Sep 18, 2010, 06:57 AM

Its been a year now.

I still miss her, but realise that what I miss is long gone and can never be brought back

I've stayed healthy, organised some holidays (skiing in japan next year, and maybe ill get to nepal later this year). I'm halfway to completing a qualification I need in my industy.

I still need to work on a lot but I'm in no rush. One day at a time

talaniman · Sep 18, 2010, 08:41 AM

And that's a good attitude to have as there really is no rush for anything. Glad to see things are better for you.

azif · Oct 16, 2010, 05:47 AM

I've caught myself looking at friends albums for photos of her. It always get me kind of nostalgic and sad. She was so great most of the time and I ruined things by not putting as much in as she was, and not appreciating what I had.

talaniman · Oct 16, 2010, 09:42 AM

Dwelling on the past is no good for you now, so stop it!!

azif · Apr 23, 2011, 06:08 AM

I miss her, just needed to put it out there...

I miss the idea of thinking something was forever. Silly

It kind of just feels like I'm treading water, keeping my head above, not going anywhere.

Possibly moving jobs, which will have pros and cons. Have passed a few exams. Failed the last one and resitting in a week. Half way to achieving my qualification.

Seeing someone new. Let myself just go with it when I'm with her though it feels like I'm being unfaithful to my ex. I think the new girlfriend wants more than I can give

talaniman · Apr 23, 2011, 06:35 AM

While its not unusual going through some difficult times can bring a longing for better times we have had, you still have to plod through those situations and emerge on the other side because those feelings will fade as situations and obstacles to happiness are overcome.

Its easy to look back, but keep moving forward. Why are you in another relationship going with the flow? Is this an emotional crutch to make you feel better about yourself? Or maybe you are not having fun, because things have become complicated?

Please explain since a lot of time has passed since you last posted. How long has this latest relationship been going on?

azif · Apr 23, 2011, 06:47 AM

Its been around a year... we were friends and it just kind of happened. Both got out of long term relationships and I guess we're more comfortable in them...

Its only complicated because I'm making it so. She's a really nice person and I care about her

We don't argue. She doesn't get jealous like my ex used to, I probably treat her a bit better. I haven't taken her for granted as much as I may have done with my ex

Maybe we're more suited personality wise or something

I haven't said the three words yet and neither has she but she tried to.
I want to be able to say them but I don't know if its true, I care about her and maybe it's the same thing
Maybe saying them means letting go of the ex and moving on